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I've been kicking around the idea for a while of moving to another instance for a while for two reasons:

1. We're primarily on lemmy.ca because there was already a skeleton community here (around 80 subscribers pre-July migration)
2. I believe that whose local feed we're on has a significant impact on the overall tenor and level of interaction here.

This post is definitely not intended to suggest we've had any issues with lemmy.ca, but it always seemed like an odd fit. So my question to y'all is this: If you could choose any instance to have an outsized effect on this community, which would it be?

Not everyone has a living father/parent so I thought I'd extend it further.

A friend likes these seasonal peppermint snacks so I'm getting some this weekend

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This is a tough piece, one that I share without fully endorsing. It lays out the problems that women experience with some men, like that men are not getting college degrees at the same rate as women or the lack of emotional modelling provided to boys and young men:

For a variety of reasons — mixed messages from the broader culture about toughness and vulnerability, the activity-oriented nature of male friendships — it seems that by the time men begin dating, they are relatively “limited in their ability and willingness to be fully emotionally present and available,” he said.

Where I think it stops short is in thinking about the root causes of those things, and how supporting men can bring them into the feminist tent.

Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

I worry folks are downvoting because they take the title as an endorsement of anti-feminism. This is an explicit statement that this sub is in no way anti-feminist. Read the sidebar.