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submitted 1 year ago by hactar42@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Here recently it seems like everything just gets under my skin so quickly and easily. It's not that I get mad and take it out on others, it's just the fact that I'm constantly annoyed and stressed. Something as simple as the dogs tracking some mud through the house will just ruin my mood. I know some people who would just laugh it off and clean it up. Meanwhile I'll get pissed that I didn't wipe their feet and be mad the entire time I'm cleaning it up. This has nothing to do with the dogs, it just an example. Any number of seemingly insignificant things can trigger me like that. Like forgetting something at the store and having to go back. I would love to be able to go, "well that sucks" and just get over it.

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[-] UnpopularCrow@lemmy.world 41 points 1 year ago

Some good advice I heard once is that you can’t change what happens to you but you can change how you react to it. Bad things will happen but how you react to those things makes such an impact. Reacting positively to negative things happening affects not only your mood, but also how you deal with those things. It takes time to shift to this style of thinking but it will definitely improve your way of life.

[-] marlamin@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

This mindset is helpful especially when compounded with general therapy techniques that you can use in your day to day, diet, exercise and sleep. Sounds cliche but it all compounds in ways that we don't really notice consciously (at least for me)

[-] JDubbleu@programming.dev 3 points 1 year ago

Definitely agree. I was raised with this mindset, but it never stuck until I went to therapy and got other things sorted. It's hard to react calmly and logically when the rest of your brain is fucked.

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