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‘Bumble fumble’: online dating apps struggle as people swear off swiping
(www.theguardian.com)
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Good, maybe politely* asking people out in public spaces other than "the fucking bar" will become acceptable again rather than creepy.
*To clarify, I mean stuff like "I think you look cool, wanna grab some coffee?" not like "Ay lemme taste the inside of your butthole gurl."
You can still do that, but as rsuri says, you cannot be so direct. It's too confrontational and girls don't really appreciate that. You have to invent some plausibly deniable reason to start a conversation. This also gives the girl an out if she is not really interested. Then you just allude to your interest in her, which don't worry she will pick up on immediately. At some point you will either hear, "... and my bf and I" or you hear nothing of that genre. At the end you can ask for a number. That's not exactly the end of the story. Most of the time, the conversation continues through text only for her to drop you before a date is planned. But it's in any case a way better experience than Tinder, unless you're some hunk who can write "6'4" on Tinder and get 100+ matches.