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What's the deal with male loneliness?
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this post was submitted on 04 Jan 2025
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Too many cars. No more third place.
Oh, too many cars! Absolutely, makes sense....
How much time do you willingly spend in public interacting with others?
There was a lot more of it happening before society required everyone to have personal transportation.
I'm an introvert so I am at home, work, or errands. I probably would talk to a lot more strangers if I had to use public transport and it wasn't so expensive to do anything fun in public.
You would?
I use public transit daily and hardly ever interact with anyone. Maybe there is one interaction every 100 days? I don't frequently see two strangers interacting either, it's unheard of except maybe for retirees with effectively infinite time.
A challenge for you (or anyone interested in taking it up): Once a day, while waiting for public transit, pay attention to the people around you. Does anyone have something interesting about them (hair, clothes, jewelery, weird keychain thing on their phone, etc.)? Ask one identified person about it. See someone who looks like they are on the verge of tears? Ask them "Hey, is everything ok?"
9/10 times you'll have a brief Q-A-back off interaction, but sometimes it'll turn into a longer conversation. Yes, it feels awkward. Yes, in some places you'll come across as rude/uncomfortably weird (keep your dominant culture in mind - you probably wouldn't try this in some place like Finland or something). But I've had some very interesting experiences doing this in the past (usually with the ones who look upset - if you're willing to be a sympathetic ear you might just make that person's day).
I can imagine little worse than doing what you just described although that is (in part) due to moderate social anxiety. I behave in the exact opposite way - ignoring people regardless of how much they stand out because I don't want to stare.
Though I can imagine what you've been doing has helped others.
Well, people will ask you for directions sometimes so that's something...
The best you get in a car is road rage