Oh sure. Not all of them, certainly, but a good number of friends and I will hug to say hello/goodbye. Some of those guys prefer the handshake-bro-hug variety, others go in for the full bear hug. A handful of them, my oldest friends, are comfortable with cuddling, snuggling, or other non-hug physical contact so that'll happen on the occasions we get to see each other.
Occasionally get rowdy with some light punching, has devolved into some wrestling until someone's hurt. Happens less as we have gotten older and we don't bounce up off the floor and shake it off like we used to. Hugs with other guys are limited to a friend's uncle and his husband.
Nope and yes. I would not personally, but more freedom = good in my book
While I don't really care if it's socially acceptable or not I found it far too awkward to hug other people for the longest time, even close friends. I have opened up to it more in the last few years but I still don't just hug someone without asking their consent first.
If I like someone, hugging them just feels great.
I'm glad yall have good people in your life. Every single person in my life is a liability.
Just another person to fuck you over. Just another obligation to be maintained. Just another human.
Yup, it depends on the person but at least in my life many male friends are physically affectionate. Admittedly some of these are affectionate via general sparring, which started in our teens and never went away.
Hugging and play fighting, sure, but can't say I've snuggled with the lads (or girl friends either for that matter) - feels more intimate, like something you'd do with a loved one (or a pet).
Drunk me might lean a bit more towards leaning or pushing against the lads, but that's always playful and jokesy rather than sincere as your post implies
I find it really interesting, the juxtaposition between pets and humans, sometimes even at the same events. Awkward huggers will get down there and really be physically affectionate with pets and competent at it, too. It always warms my heart, but also makes me wish society was just a bit more relaxed sometimes. Pets can be the instigators of play in a great way, but it also makes me wonder if people are missing opportunities to form stronger connections to friends and family members.
Nope. Too likely they're either a toxic two steps from blatant homophobia, or an actual incel these days. I kinda wish it was more socially acceptable, but at the same time? A lot of these dudes make me regret/resent the gender I was born as.
Hugging, yeah. My joints(knees, shoulders, back) are too fucked for what play wrestling is between guys, I forget that when I see my brother after a while but I get reminded right quick. No snuggling, but I'm also not usually on a couch when we hang, still probably not.
I wish it were more acceptable, but personally I'd just rather not be touched by anyone.
No and no. Good handshake and quick 1 handed hug is all I want.
No. The hug men do is not affectionate but a greeting after a long time, comfort for bad times, or a congrats
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I wish it was more acceptable (except snuggling, that's a bit much too intimate)
lol
Hugging ✅
Snuggling - Not really a problem
Playful wrestling - Guaranteed the guy who instigated it is in the closet, same with most people who watch actual wrestling
Hugging friends -- yes and easy. Snuggling -- never. And this doesn't apply only to men, it applies to women whom I don't find attractive as well.
Physical affection from someone I don't find attractive is super akward. Now I'm a cis straight male, so this principle applies to essentially all men.
P.S. OP, if you like more actual physical affection from your male friends, it's maybe just time to come out of the closet. This is lemmy, nobody is really straight around here anyways
Oh, I'm quite open and queer, but I know that not everyone is. Different cultures around the globe handle things differently, too. But I even see the difference on the more local scale, where some friends are quite physically affectionate, whereas others hug me like a frozen fence post, haha.
It's interesting that women generally are fairly physically affectionate with friends, but men kind of run the gamut depending on family and social culture. And yet, even some of the most awkward are super physically affectionate with animals and pets, sometimes even at the same event.
I find stuff like that fascinating. Cultures evolve and change, with some aspects being more seasonal, and others more glacial. :)
Snuggling -- never. And this doesn't apply only to men, it applies to women whom I don't find attractive as well.
What about nonhuman animals? Do you dislike cuddly dogs?
If they smell, no way. A cuddly cat can be enjoyable
“I’m not, and also I don’t want it to be socially acceptable” gives massive “it’s okay to be gay as long as you don’t do it in public” energy.
Sounds a bit gay
Yeah I hug my friends most times we see each other and fight them very rarely. Most of my friends and me do not want to be cuddled but there's always that one friend who tries to be as gay as humanly possible and eventually you just accept that he's going to invade your space and be gay. For my tier 1 friends social stigma does not exist. For tier 2 it exists but can be broken and for tier 3 every interaction exists firmly within the socially acceptable boundaries and I would be extremely uncomfortable if one of them hugged or hit me with some gayshit.
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