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[-] rustyfish@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Few years ago I changed my nick on PSN because I coudn't stand my old one anymore. I choose a name that sounded feminine to say the least. Unicorns and shit, don't ask. So naturally people thought I was a gurl or at least super gay. I felt the change of behavior immediately.

In Destiny 2 alone I got revived way more often. People went out of their way to run across the open world map just to get to me. Damsel needed rescue I guess. I got a lot of invitations to Raids "Hey, we are LFG and we can explain everything to you if you want to". I got these messages while standing arround the main hub. Doing nothing. While wearing the Raid exclusive Exotic on my character for everyone to see (fucking Eyes Of Tomorrow is almost as big as my char). I got called "bitch" and "slut" many times...come to think of it, that wasn't new. Party invitations out of nowhere, chat invitations out of nowhere.

In Warframe some guy gave me an item for half the price for no apparent reason, after that he send me a chat invitation, I declined and he send me a PN wishing I would get raped. Another one I thought was afk in a mission, but no. He was just typing a message to me: "Hey, how are you doing? You new to Warframe?" Again, me jumping around in a highly optimized Nekros/Atterax build...

Sooooo online gaming is full of psychos. I didn't question that but it was then when I fully understood how bad it was. There are a lot of women playing games, some even play Call of Whatever is cool atm. They just stay quiet and play eighter with friends or with other women. There are nerds out there who are beyond insufferable.

[-] balrogslayer@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

When I was about 13 or 14, I revealed to my WoW friend (who I'd been playing with for months) that I was a girl and within a day he went from being my cool friend to someone who was offering me raid gear in exchange for talking dirty to him through Ventrilo.

Nearly 20 years later and I refuse to let anyone in on my gender. It's dehumanizing that we can't even play a game without being harassed.

[-] CrypticFawn@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago

I typically use masculine names when playing multiplayer games to avoid most of the misogyny. I also pretend I'm mute so I don't have to use a mic.

[-] LFR@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I often play female characters and occasionally have the same experienced.

Recently i started a new game, someone helped me with something that I thought would take like two minutes, but it went on and on and he was friendly and helped me further. When we were finished after at least an hour, he said something which made it obvious he thought that I was a woman. I corrected him and he said "oh, lol" and immedeatly left the group. So fucking weird.

It's also funny to me because i never even look at usernames, neither in games or reddit, lemmy, etc. don't know why, but I just skip over it. So I don't even come to think who the person might be. Only when I'm in a group and have adress someone specifically I read what the names are.

[-] Silentiea@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

The only time I look at usernames is when someone says "thanks for the advice cumspanker3000" or something like that

[-] gerbler@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

It's pretty clear that games being male oriented has been somewhat of a self-fullfilling prophecy for decades. Publisher's and manufacturers have pretty much exclusively targeted young males and so it shouldn't surprise anyone that they historically made up the bulk of the market as a direct result.

It's honestly embarrassing how long it's taken for that mindset to shift when there's an obvious financial disincentive to perpetuating it.

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[-] taiyang@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

The comments: No way, women don't play games. I never see them.

Yeah no, they might not be on your games. But having seen the sheer lust for Link, I'm not surprised switch is popular.

And the crazy thing is, the industry really doesn't do a good job at this. The numbers could really be higher, especially mobile, but the sheer number of male fantasy waifu games out there is ludicrous. (Although, unsurprisingly, the dollars earned from whales are overwhelming male, especially internationally where the wage gap is higher, so that's what drives that).

[-] TwilightVulpine@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Not to mention that a lot of women have bad experiences with online gamer guys being sexist assholes, so they might not want to call attention to themselves.

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[-] Nikki@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago
[-] goomby69@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Me too! But I still avoid voice chat... :P

[-] wren@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 year ago

Ugh same. The number of gross comments I've gotten on vc over the years is enough to fill a book.

I'm mainly on PC now though, playing single player games or games with my fiancée and/or friends

[-] Silentiea@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago

I just avoid pvp or most multiplayer.

[-] FinalRemix@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Seriously. Even PvE multiplayer games suck these days.

[-] Katana314@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I’m seeing indie projects like BattleBit where they’re taking a very hardline stance towards voice toxicity, and I’m curious if that environment change could ever make it feel like a safer space to speak.

[-] toxicbubble@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

so many comments in disbelief lol, almost like gaming is more accessible now hmmmmm

[-] phario@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Women also make up 50% of PC video game players and 54 percent of mobile game players.

I find a lot of these figures really hard to believe, to be honest.

Looking at the link, there is little I can find about their methodology.

[-] Andy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago

I understand being skeptical, but there's no reason it should be hard to believe...

[-] Helldiver_M@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

It looks like the data comes from Statista. After a quick google, they look to be credible. Though, they require a business solutions license to see the source, which is a cool $490.

In other words, looks legit imho.

[-] Greenskye@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Sims is pretty popular and the main version everyone plays is PC only, but can be run on laptops and other low end PCs. There are a lot of 'I only play Sims' people out there. Could account for some of the numbers

[-] Whirlybird@aussie.zone 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

It’s a survey of 10k households, US only (since that’s what NPD/Circana is).

I don’t believe these figures are even remotely close to reality.

https://twitter.com/matpiscatella/status/1667172957066600448?s=46&t=Cbb3biYQblpmbWC3J0KfQg

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[-] cloudpunk@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago

Glad to see the gate keeping came with us.

I've played wow (MMOs tend to be popular with women, my guild has several women), overwatch, and am playing diablo now. Call of duty just looks kinda boring to me. I also play alot of single player games.

[-] Lokoschade@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago

I almost exclusively play single player games or multiplayer games with friends I know in real life. I've had some bad experiences with online gaming and they are often way too stressful for my liking.

[-] AlboTheGuy@feddit.nl 2 points 1 year ago

The irony of the company that picked boys over girls having the majority of their users being girls

[-] NinjaYeti76@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

My wife loves her Nintendo switch and so does my daughter. I also played Diablo 4 with my wife which is amazing. I'm all for more women playing games. I don't have to hide by myself in a room playing video games anymore. It's just a normal part of my family. There are many benefits to women playing games beyond what I just mentioned obviously.

[-] Shardikprime@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I've been playing mmorpgs for years or at least since tibia, lineage, pwo and mu and all my guild leaders have been women, with a sustancial quantity of women was well on parties and guild wars. What's this all about

[-] Epicurus0319@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago
[-] mintiefresh@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago

It's cool to see the numbers and warms my heart to know that everyone is enjoying games.

[-] tuna_casserole@programming.dev 1 points 1 year ago

Wow I'm a little surprised it's grown so much so fast.

I guess anecdotally it's not terribly surprising? 30s. Busy af. However my gf has been straight dragging me through Terraria, Cosmoteer, and seems like Battle Bit soon. She had a lot more flexibility with her schedule so I'm just trying to keep up.

Weird but awesome

[-] bibliotectress@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I (F) have always played video games (started with the NES and AD&D games on PC) because my dad had bought them for my brother, and they were fun. Nearly all of my female friends in junior high played N64 games along with our male friends, but now having friends in my upper 30s, very few of them play video games unless they're on mobile. And even if they do play mobile games, it's not Stardew Valley. It's the shitty ones that come pre-installed or they found through ads on Facebook. There are a few from my junior high nerd bubble that I'm sure still play, but I keep it on the DL at work because everyone is mostly frustrated with their husbands and kids and how much time they sink into games. They're judgy about it. I've started occasionally admitting I play games, but feel like I have to say we play them as a family, and relate it to board games.

The article surprises me. Although my daughter had tons of friends to play with online during the pandemic, so maybe it's more zoomers and 20-somethings?

[-] tuna_casserole@programming.dev 2 points 1 year ago

I get the productivity shame as well. Like if I mention a game I play, then someone is piping up with a fence they fixed or something etc etc.

It seems like you're getting your femininity attacked as well which seems so strange. I just thought we would've learned by now. Like in our generation (looks like we started at the same time) I was teased (to say the least) a lot for my "nerdy" interests but now it's like most of it is vogue. It's dumb that we would repeat that with a specific gender.

I don't know if it's of any use but the majority of my lady friends game. Thru mostly also tend to be quiet about it unless nudged. That is to say that you're not weird, just awesome.

[-] bibliotectress@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Your comment is so kind! Thank you!!! And you're right, I've never really thought about it like that, but it DOES feel like my femininity is attacked! It's easy to wave off the incel "tHeRe ArE nO wOmEn On ThE iNtErNeT" comments that I don't come across as much anymore, but from people I know face-to-face, it gets to me. At least enough to avoid the topic. I'm sure there are a lot of women like me all hiding that we play video games!

It's not fair that you're getting the productivity shame either. The people who do that are usually the same people that are like, "Have you seen the latest 5 different series that have dropped on Netflix? I watched them all last weekend."

Oh well. I feel like it'll only get more socially acceptable to spend our free time however we want! It can only go up from here!

[-] Roundcat@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

I can say from my experience most women I know are gamers. I'd say the biggest difference is they tend to play more single player experiences. My older sister has always been a big jRPG nerd, and my younger sis was always into Bethesda games, especially Fallout. Meanwhile a lot of my friends are into life sim games like Stardew Valley, the Sims, and Animal Crossing, and we tend to play the latest big nintendo game together.

I am probably the only person in my group of friends that does anything remotely multiplayer, unless it's local or coop.

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