sounds like a loving wife and mother frightened to death that her husband and the father of her children will not survive the ongoing fucking shooting war with fucking russia

she actually said, and a paraphrase cause i cant quite remember it.

i am being selfish, i want my husband back, my kids don't see their father as much as they should

I think it is fair enough, all wives/mothers/husbands/fathers want the otherside back, and to live together. If she wasnt the first lady, it would be seen as a normal feeling.

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-66711845

Now, she reflects that she never dreamt of her husband becoming the "historical figure" he is today, saying she has missed him and needed him to stand by her side as her husband.

Despite what she said may be a "selfish" longing, Olena Zelenska said the president "really does have the energy, the will power, inspiration, and stubbornness to go through this war".

It's a bit out of context and BBC's story isn't word-per-word on what she said (there's video interview as well) but the main idea is that she would rather live life where her husband was around instead of being historical figure leading a country in war. And I can absolutely understand that, I hope both of them (and all of the Ukraine) can soon return to normal and boring everyday life instead of air raids, active battlezones, mines and other explosives around cities and so on.

that's entirely my bad on fucking up the paraphrase. she does not seem selfish in that way to me -- but the way she said something one time in a much larger context seemed real to me. she was expressing the realities of being in a war. [deleted]

Very selfish. My ex-wife used to say the same thing, she wanted me to be a “father” and “husband” and stop going on business trips to Thailand every month. Some people don’t understand greatness

I can understand that one. Being married to someone that has an enormous target on their back (forever, even after this ear ends) can't be much family fun. Always be careful, always worry if they come back home... I can see where she's coming from.

And accepting is one thing, that doesn't mean you have to like it.