I think it's relative to the unfortunately common belief that trans ppl are constantly rubbing their existences in our faces. Why must we accept neo-pronouns? Why do they expect me to change my worldview to accept their existence?

I feel that there's a somewhat threatening social expectation that a trans person should conform to existing gender norms and expectations. I've had many discussions with friends about "passing". In certain parts of the world, passing is necessary for survival. They're not doing it because they want to, but because they have to.

A non-binary friend recently told me that they were described by friends as a "social chameleon", and eventually it became something that they resented about themselves. They ended up distancing themselves from those friends so that they could rediscover their sense of social identity.

With that said, I think the brazen public displays of aggression that we see towards trans folk come from people who believe that the general public agree with their views. I believe that if we speak up and call that shit out when we see it, they will begin to realize that actually no, not everyone agrees with them. Unfortunately I think most people are scared to speak up about that, and it's easier to just turn a blind eye to it.