I have not explored Trillium enough, but from what I know, it seems to be an excellent choice and worthy of mention and advocacy. I did not say that Trillium was bad.

Unless obsidian goes fully foss, and gets way way more stable, i’ll be using the genuinely better choice, thanks though.

I'm glad it's a better choice for you! Replying to you doesn't mean I was saying your choice was incorrect for you or others, merely that I wanted to discuss in context of your comment. Apologies if you read that from my response. I do not think I can declare a genuinely better choice. In my opinion, the most important thing with note-taking is whether you keep returning to do it and can easily find past notes.

You’re doing that thing where someone starts going to bat and listing off this that or this other thing to rationalize their own choice or rationalize the choice for others.

Ok? I don't recall saying Obsidian was THE choice, nor that your reasons were incorrect, so I don't know why you're casting me in that role. Generally I lean towards self-hosting and foss options for the reasons you describe, but this is an instance where I calculated differently, and I just want to provide context that, compared to other proprietary options, Obsidian is way less a concern. I've personally gone down rabbit holes with foss alternatives because i've been overly concerned about things and ended up not being productive. I've also chosen foss tools before that I thought would be safe or easy to migrate out of, and then ended up having a terrible time anyway when the day came that it became abandonware or a new maintainer took it in a different direction.

Perhaps you are doing that thing where you forget that not everyone can easily use a fully foss option and that not everyone can reliably install a tool from github in the event it isn't available on an app store or via an installer? (I'm certainly guilty of this sometimes myself)

Even for a tool like Trillium, while it wouldn't enshitify the same way a proprietary tool could, it could also just be abandoned, no forks could arise, and someone without a ton of self-hosting/compiling/cli-based install troubleshooting experience would be in just as bad a situation for migrating or going elsewhere. Even right now, Trillium is technically unsupported on macOS, so it's not a great option for some out the gate. (Nor does that make Obsidian automatically better)