I found this a very intriguing read. I'm sorry to read that all this happened and wish that people could just treat each other with kindness. And when not, be the bigger person and just ignore it.

This kind of drama does not help the fediverse grow. Not every disagreement is an attack on a marginalized group but neurotic individuals that can't handle intrapersonal conflicts blowing things up into needless drama is going to actually bring more hate on those groups as it perpetuates stereotypes and blowing up petty disputes dilutes actual marginalization.