When it comes to Deep Rock/co-op I think my issues are more associated with the underlying gameloop design. I find it hard to perform well when the "tension" ramps up and these games are kind of tailor-made to create high-tension situations. When a round ends I'm left feeling tired/deflated rather than joyful. I had the same issue with Left 4 Dead, but oddly not so for Payday 2.

In any case, I'm right there with you when it comes to TF2 community servers. I sorely wish that more games emphasized these sorts of digital "3rd places". I have TF2 servers where I can go anytime and just... belong for as long as I please. Games should have more permanent places like that, where play and community come before any imposed win/lose dichotomy. People would be happier.