I was thinking along the lines of

Plenty of libraries can build the XML using structs/classes. e.g. with serde:

//Data type for row
#[derive(serde::Serialize)]
pub struct Foo {
	pub status: String,
	pub name: String,
}

//Example row
let ent = Foo {
    status: "paid".into(),
    name: "bob".into(),
}

//Example execution
sqlx::query(&serde_xml_rs::to_string(&InsertStmt{
	table: "foo".into(),
	value: &ent,
})?).execute(&conn)?;

Or with jackson-dataformat-xml:

//Data type for row
public class Foo {
    public string status;
    public string name;
}

//Example row
Foo ent = new Foo();
foo.status = "paid";
foo.value = "bob";

//Example execution
XmlMapper xmlMapper = new XmlMapper();
String xml = xmlMapper.writeValueAsString(new InsertStmt("foo", ent));
try (Statement stmt = conn.createStatement()) {
    stmt.executeUpdate(xml)
}

I don't do JS (yet) but maybe JSX could also do similar things with XML queries.

No more matching $1, $2, ... (or ? for mysql) with individual columns, I could dump entire structs/objects into a query and it would work.