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this post was submitted on 27 Jan 2024
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I sense that the question belies a mindset that romance is a numbers game, and I am eager to point out that it's not. Success in love, in my experience, comes from the willingness to share yourself with others and the courage to be vulnerable.
Don't worry about how many people would like what you've got to offer. Focus on genuine connections with the people in your orbit, and branch out from there.
Caveat: unless you're surrounded by abusers
Far more effective than avoiding pain is learning to take it and keep moving. The former reduces one’s territory to ever smaller sizes. The latter expands one’s territory.
So yeah. Go ask people out. Take the risks, get rejected, open up again. If you can. If you can’t you’re fucked, so it’s best to assume you can and keep trying as if it will work. Because you never lose a moment by trying.