"Varies" for all bar the penultimate.

There it would be less "deciding whether you want to date..." and more "deciding whether you want to continue to date". Am a bit hasty when it comes to getting embroiled before scoping stuff out.

Activities are nice, but unimportant.

Values very important - they don't have to align on details if they're broadly shared, but I'll be revulsed if someone pretends to be more aligned (or more freshly & speedily persuaded than they truly are - we all change our minds, but if you volte face too readily I'll query your sincerity & also the depth of anything you claim to believe, past, present & future).

Emotional intelligence? For the most part, if you're aware of & working on your insecurities, encouraging me to work on mine (sappy contradictions are a waste of breath & mental energy) we should be ok. Playing games is anathema to me in both directions - I'll come to you in straightforward terms if I have a problem and expect you to do likewise. Until then, assume I am content with our relationship.

Humour? Overlap is lovely, but you need to have some even if we have no mutual sense of humour. If you only crack insincere smiles & never once laugh, despite a great variety of social circumstances, imma have some misgivings unless there's reason to suspect anxiety or depression.

N.B.: yes, all of the above are things discovered in my dotage as an experienced lady, on a recent escapade, now mercifully over.