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Dad has the chops to be a project manager. (lemmy.world)

submitted 6 months ago by robocall@lemmy.world to c/programmer_humor@programming.dev

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[-] Snapz@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago

If he was serious, your dad seems like a prick that sees you as an appendage that he owns...

This seems as good an opportunity as any to tell him to go fuck himself and learn some boundaries - not sure if you need to hear this, but blood doesn't get a pass just for being blood. Make ALL the people in your life earn their place there by treating you decently.

[-] Red_October@lemmy.world 14 points 6 months ago

Woah buddy, you're at about a 9, we need you down at a 3.

"Dad" doesn't know anything about web design, but he knows (presumably son) makes them, and he ballparked a number making the entirely common armature mistake of thinking it's as easy as setting up your facebook page. He's also not demanding anything here. Nothing about this exchange suggests that "Dad" was going to require that the work be done at the stated price. It seemed like

Maybe before you go burning bridges and obliterating a family relation, consider how much easier it is to tell "Dad's Buddy" that while Dad was well meaning, he was way off, and Buddy is free to compare with other estimates, but $X is actually a much more reasonable value.

[-] Snapz@lemmy.world -4 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

You're not, OP....

also, feels pretty obvious you haven't been involved in bidding jobs before - these initial numbers set expectations. If "dad" valued the kid's talent and time, he would have said, "they'll give you a number" and/or the message to kid would not have been closed, it would have been open. So instead of, "you'll do this, thanks bye" it would be a question to kid prior saying, "I know a lot goes into your work, is $500 a good ballpark to give my friend for something like this?"

It's about expectations and entitlement - you're essentially my property, so I decided it would be this is indicative of a problem with "dad's" approach.