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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Please be kind as this topic is a pain point for me. I'm feeling the pressure of finding my significant other because I'm at an age where it seems like everyone in my social media feed is getting engaged, married, or having kids. The issue is I have a huge transition coming up and will have to move in a few months to a place that is a few hours away by car. I will have a lot more free time soon before moving, but then after I've moved to the new location I will be extremely busy and worry that I won't be able to sustain a relationship, let alone a long distance one. However, I am very aware that the clock is ticking and something else to consider is that I need to rely heavily on dating apps currently, whereas there would likely be more potential suitors where I'm headed to. What if I do find the right person during this seemingly short window of time? What if we could make the long distance work or he wanted to move with me? Or do you think it is smarter and there is more potential for me to meet someone at the new location after getting situated? Any advice or suggestions are welcome. Thank you!

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[-] jet@hackertalks.com 22 points 8 months ago

It's better to live life today than wait for tomorrow.

If nothing else it keeps you in practice for dating, and maybe you will find someone who is moving to your new area anyway.

[-] appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org 2 points 8 months ago

I keep going back and forth unable to decide. It's a valid point. I'm just so afraid to open up too much only to have to walk away or one of us not wanting to do long distance. Maybe I should try putting effort into my appearance and sitting alone at a cafe/bar because there is a fatigue with dating apps. I was dating December 2023-Feb 2024 using 1 app and was exhausted so if anything I don’t think that app is working out

[-] jet@hackertalks.com 3 points 8 months ago

You have to find what works for you. Being on the app and talking to people is no commitment. And you can meet people and do events just for friendship. It will keep you social. Never hurts to expand your network

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