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I think you're reading way too far into a playful action.
Also, buying someone a drink does not make them obligated to sleep with you, but that's not relevant to the story because nobody bought anyone anything.
OP asked for opinions on why the guy walked away. I offered an opinion based on my experience from my many years running a nightclub. Absolutely nobody has suggested that anyone should be obligated to sleep with anyone else. In fact, the last sentence of my last post said exactly the opposite.
As I've repeatedly said, OP was clearly not doing this. I suggested that maybe the guy that OP was flirting with has been burned by someone else doing that to him in the past, and that's why he reacted in that way.
@appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org I'm not always great at getting my point across, so if I have implied that you did anything wrong, please know that it was not my intention, and I apologise.
Don't worry about it, thank you for sharing the perspective you gained from your experience. I am just now seeing the exchange below. It wasn't my intention to create a controversial discussion, but I appreciate you both taking time to offer input.
They didn't ask that at all, they asked if they were in the wrong.
Your opinion that it may have suggested a lady might be willing to be bought a drink but shockingly would not sleep with the man indeed suggests an obligation that doesn't exist.
You use the phrase "burned by taking advantage" again suggests an obligation.
OP asked for possible reasons for why the man acted the way he did. It's right there in the post that you apparently didn't read. I offered one possible explanation based on experience.
I've repeatedly said that nobody owes anything to anyone else. You are the person who keeps suggesting that I said different. You seem like you're trying to paint me into a corner to try and get me to say something that I didn't. You're either arguing in bad faith, or are incapable of understanding someone else's point of view.
To clarify, yet again, the girls who would pull this trick would act as if they were interested in the guy that they chose, and were interested in sleeping with them. They were not interested in sleeping with them, they just wanted free drinks. The guys would find out at the end of the night that these girls were pretending to be interested just to get drinks, and would be annoyed that they had been tricked. At no point did anyone owe anything to anyone else.
A guy who had been tricked like this in the past might avoid anyone that he thinks might be trying it in the future.
Again, OP was clearly not doing this. I only offered this as a possible reason for the way that the guy in OP's post had acted. It was based on my own experiences from running a nightclub for several years, and seeing people act the same way.
I resent the fact that you're trying to twist my words to make it sound like I think that people owe other people sex, and I'm done with you. Go troll someone else.
Read this through again. Think about what you're saying. To suggest it's a 'trick' to accept a gift that's offered without offering your own self as a reward. If you truly believe that women don't owe men sex if they buy them a drink then why are you talking about it as if they're not holding up their end of the bargain?
If someone lies to you, especially if it's to trick you into giving them something, it's ok to feel upset.
The only person who is constantly saying anything about people being owed sex is you. Seek help.
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Fair enough.