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this post was submitted on 17 Aug 2024
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Before your parents go to great expense to move, have a sit down and talk with them about this. Make sure everyone involved knows what to expect beforehand.
If they move and things aren’t what they expect, it will sour everyone’s relationship much more
This was something I recommend fully, OP I had to do the same with my mother moving out. I forced her to think about hard questions like
What if we decide to move away (my partner and I)? Will you stay in your new home? Would you even be able to afford to move again? What if we left and you didn't even like it there, after all we moved because we liked it.
What if you don't like it? Is being near me enough to justify living somewhere you don't like?
You will not be close to your friends and family anymore, which means missing some time critical things. (Think elderly family members, if we got the word it's now a 5 hour flight plus a lot of driving). Are you sure you're okay with that?
(Important for OP) You will not have a key to our place, and we will not have an open door policy. We do have our own lives and our own friends, and it won't be like when I was growing up where you could see me whenever you wanted. You'll still have to call and schedule time with us. Does that change how you view this?
Ultimately she decided she was okay with those, but OP come up with a list of these, and have the hard conversation.