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Rant about "having ADHD is not an excuse for everything"
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yeah, but "I have ADHD, so I'll never be on time" is a very shitty excuse. You waste other people's time.
"I have ADHD, so I hate queuing, so I'm not going with you to that famous museum" is boundaries.
don't confuse boundaries with expecting everyone around you to put up with your symptoms all the time.
There’s also a big difference between “I’ll never be on time” and “there will be times I’m late because I have adhd”. But seriously if someone can’t handle my adhd symptoms I don’t expect them to, but they should also not expect me to care that they can’t deal with them. Because I don’t.
Why the fuck is that not a valid excuse? It can be impossible to find sufficient support and adjustments to enable yourself to reliably arrive on time, saying shit like this is a great way to make people who are already struggling feel even more worthless, jesus christ.
Yeah sure, you can't expect people to literally always be able to accomodate every struggle everyone may have, but to just summarily say "deal with it" is so heartless..
You can always, always, plan things in a way that you're an hour ahead of schedule. And you'll be on time. Or like 30 min too early.
It's your struggle and you can deal with it in a way that's costly to you or to everyone around you.
And the trend this days seems to completely utterly ignore your symptoms, develop zero coping mechanisms, and then rant on lemmy about the cruel society.