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[-] june@lemmy.dbzer0.com 76 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

A big reason that drove me was that I have a micropenis.

Fake. There are no "reasons to drive someone" other than their internal gender, this sounds like something ~~a cis person~~ someone who thinks being trans is a choice would say.

Edit: For clarity, I'm not speculating on whether or not the OP in the post is trans or cis, I'm saying it doesn't sound like a real story because it sounds inauthentic to the trans experience. A trans person could easily think this up, like anyone can make up a story that is close to their experiences, but since it isn't real it doesn't really pass scrutiny.

[-] Ptsf@lemmy.world 67 points 3 months ago

That's such reddit logic. You assume everyone has a perfect understanding of themselves, but people have a lot of different things internally that drive them and they're not always aware of it. When I was young I was interested in other men, and frankly, quite disgusted by it. It's the habitat I was raised in and if you'd asked me back then, I'd have told you it was because I was a sinner. The real reason as I came to discover was indeed that I'm just gay. It took a lot of steps and discovery to get there. I'm not saying this is real, I'm just pointing out that just because your logic is correct does not mean that this person if they are real has made enough discoveries about themselves to be strictly logical.

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[-] Floey@lemm.ee 25 points 3 months ago

Your internal gender didn't just fall out of a coconut tree.

[-] somtwo@lemmy.world 23 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Wait, are you saying people would lie on 4chan???

But seriously, yeah, people don't seem to realize that people tend to want to pick the path of least resistance. If someone really is trans I have to believe it's because who they are is so at odds with the expectations of society.

Edit: added a qualification because I am not trans

[-] june@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 months ago

Exactly. Coming to terms with being trans, when trans people have been seen as nothing but the butt of far too many jokes in damn near all exposure most of us had growing up, is a difficult process rife with cognitive dissonance and defense mechanisms. No one wants to be trans, they just want to be their gender and have to be trans to get that.

[-] somtwo@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

The pain of self repression against the potential pain of self expression

[-] match@pawb.social 23 points 3 months ago

two of my trans women friends, when getting their sperm frozen before starting hormones, found out they just have XX chromosomes and never had working sperm in the first place

i think we underestimate how many intersex people there are

[-] june@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Yup. My belief is that we are likely to eventually combine the categories of transgender and differences in sexual development (formerly known as intersex) as we discover more about it's biological origins. The vast majority of people have never been karyotyped and have no idea what their chromosomes are.

[-] Ragnarok314159@sopuli.xyz 2 points 3 months ago

It’s time to just replace the old questionnaires with Skyrim type character creator slide rules.

“Please define yourself. If you take more than an hour you fail no matter what.”

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 18 points 3 months ago

Idk 4chan has a notoriously toxic and strange trans community. Giving “reasons” is exactly the sort of thing I’d expect of them

[-] june@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 months ago

That's a good point. I haven't browsed 4chan since way before they had any LGBT community/rep visible on it, I don't know what kind of convoluted views they have. Let me guess, some of them unironcally identify as "agp" don't they?

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

There’s a whole lot of blanchardianism (agp vs hsts). Quite a bit of homophobia, it’s actually a lot straighter than you’d probably expect. A lot of how they act is surprisingly old school, like back in the day when you weren’t allowed to transition unless therapists thought you couldn’t live a normal life as your assigned sex old school. And all this with the characteristic 4chan edgy bs. Also they’re anti supportive, like full on terf forum level of critical of trans people’s appearance.

I haven’t been but I’ve learned to pick up the signs by seeing the shit trans people who come from 4chan say.

[-] june@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 3 months ago

Good to know, thank you for the info. That's really sad.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 6 points 3 months ago

Yeah I think there’s just something about 4chan that encourages a sort of emotional automasochistic culture. I think it’s partly that the culture pushes away the healthy, but it also drives those capable of health away from it in favor of “uncomfortable truths”. I forget what Natalie Wynn called it, but it’s the philosophy of “it is true because it hurts”. And it happens all across the website. It’s the thing that ties the Nazis, the trolls, the incels, and the self hating trans people together, and it’s antithetical to happiness.

[-] Draegur@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago

Holy shit I never heard of it put into words but jesus fucking christ does that CLICK. I'm no longer there myself but there was certainly a time when I felt in a similar way:

The truth is painful,
Therefore the more that it hurts,
The more true it is.

This rhetorical position is insidious, deranged, toxic, and most importantly: blatantly incorrect and false. Holding this belief is a diagnostic flag of fundamental cognitive stack malfunction. Suspend all non-critical executive processes and seek therapy.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

So I just remembered the term she used was masochistic epistemology. It was in this video about incels.

But yeah it’s such an easy trap to fall into when you’re already unhappy. And yeah it’s a form of accepting defeat because trying is hard and the possibility of failure is scary. Sometimes the truth hurts, and if you’re generally miserable the truth you need is likely uncomfortable, but that discomfort could be anything from “you need to get your shit together” to “your expectations are unrealistic” to “you’re surrounding yourself with people and things that make you miserable because it’s easier to accept unhappiness than to change”

Incels for example think they need to accept that they’re just ugly and unable to ever be seen as attractive and thus are destined to be miserable forever, when in reality they often need to accept that getting laid won’t make them happy and their misery is part of why they can’t get laid. They need to find a happy life in which sex would be a nice plus and then be clean, groomed, and enjoyable to be around.

[-] 0laura@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

i have spent and still spend lots of time in these places and yes, they do. they desperately want to be hsts and hate themselves for being agp and not being trutrans enough. lots of reppers too (trans people that know they're trans but repress it out of self hatred). there's lots of lore

[-] june@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 months ago

That's really sad. It would also explain how she is relating her micropenis, via shame and self-hatred, to being trans.

[-] 0laura@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 3 months ago

oh no that greentext is just a meme, she didn't call herself a gorillahon or talk about how she gets mogged by cissoids or how bonepilled she is.

[-] june@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 months ago

Those are a lot of new words. I kind of want to ask, but I kind of don't want to know

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[-] GarbageShoot@hexbear.net 16 points 3 months ago

This very well may be fake, but it's also entirely possible to identify as trans for any number of reasons. You might say such a person is "not really" trans but, supposing that is true, there's no contradiction between that and some person who doesn't have such ideological convictions having a thought process like you see in this image and acting on it.

That said, I agree that it's probably fake, though I'm not as confident that the poster is a cis impersonator.

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[-] Interstellar_1@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)
[-] DempstersBox@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Yeah, this seems like the 'joke' is that only guys with tiny dicks would want to transition.

Which has nothing to do with it

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