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Am I missing something or is 4B essentially MGTOW for women?
Just viewed through a more positive lens specifically because it's women.
MGTOW is mostly men who can't get laid. These women could get laid. Not the same.
Wow. I have seen a lot of divorced men on MGTOW, that got taken away most of their things after divorce, and then wanted to have a peaceful life only with themselves. You are so wrong.
It’s more a reaction to the policies that make relationships and pregnancy dangerous. Why settle down when you could be one of the 1/5 natural miscarriages and potentially go into septic shock or blow a fallopian tube?
You'll have to ask all women of all time up to a few days ago
It actually has historic precedent. Women have been using lack of sex and companionship with men for lots of issues they championed from suffrage to even early prohibition.
It's not just a counter culture of issues with dating but a protest. I think that makes it a bit different really.
Erik the Red converted to Christianity because his wife refused to have sex with him until he did.
I got the letters wrong. I accidentally joined the 4H Club
Exactly that
MGTOW is a right wing misogynistic movement. 4B isn't hating anyone like MGTOW is
So, we have a group of men looking at the state of the world (and in particular law/society on gender issues) and deciding they are just going to opt out of the whole relationships/marriage/children thing and swear off women. Is there any world in which that would not be described as misogynistic by default? The swearing off itself is seen as misogyny before you go even a step further.
But this proves my point - that it's women swearing off men rather than the reverse causes it to be viewed more positively.
I feel like MGTOW is mostly all right wingers, which brings a lot more baggage then the left-leaning 4B movement
I'm not right wing and still MGTOW. Not about supremacy. It is an ideology that says men can be fine without women. Period.
MGTOW is a legitimate thing on its own and doesn't have anything inherently wrong with it. Unfortunately it has been mostly co-opted by misogynists. The "movement" (if we want to call it that) has been tainted by these bad actors.
Why giving negatives? You women can't take it when you are not the center of the universe anymore huh...
ITT - people presenting opinion as fact.
You're missing the part where MGTOW is because no woman wants to fuck them. 4B is also because no women want to fuck them. Men's wants have nothing to do with why they get no sex.
MGTOW is an anti-feminist movement, which means it's based in the idea that women shouldn't be equal to men.
This movement is based in the idea that women should be equal to men. So it's different.
Ever hear a saying to the effect of liking Christianity if it weren't for the the Christians ruining it? As in that the ideals are fine on paper and in theory (love thy neighbor, care for the less fortunate, etc, etc), but in practice the adherents don't really do them as such?
The same applies to feminism - in theory the idea is gender equality, but in practice it often isn't.
I've been around long enough to remember when the standard feminist response to question about what should be done about male victims of abuse or sexual assault done by women was to dismiss them as not existing.
I remember a man opening the first men's DV shelter in Canada (Men's Alternative Safe Housing) and being denied funding because it wasn't a women's shelter until he could no longer keep it afloat from private donations and out of pocket funds so he had to close it and hanged himself in the garage. He left a left a four-page suicide note, condemning the government for failing to recognize male victims of domestic abuse and wrote that that he hoped his death would bring more awareness to the issue of male abuse. I wonder what ideology permeates domestic abuse services, again?
I remember big and loud feminist protests at the University of Toronto against checks notes a talk about suicide in men given by a former member of the New York board of the National Organization For Women (who he left when they opposed more equal child custody). If you've ever seen the "Big Red" memes with the red haired angry shouty feminist, they were inspired by a real person who was at this protest shouting a Jezebel article at the crowd and calling anyone who tried to engage with her "fuckface". The group hosting the talk (CAFE) would go on to create another men's shelter which still exists and is to my knowledge the only one in Canada.
Speaking of Jezebel, I remember them writing an article casually joking about the times they've been violent with their male significant others, including in one case hitting her boyfriend because he was worried he might have cancer.
I remember listening to a recording of a radio show on Soundcloud 9 years ago where Mary Koss (prominent sexual assault researcher - nearly all research on campus sexual assault in the US descends from her work, she's the source of that 1-in-4 number that gets thrown around sometimes, and she coined the term "date rape" among others) was asked about male victims of female perpetrators and her response was to ask how that would even happen, how could a woman make a man have sex by force, threat of force or by incapacitating him? (I'd give you an exact quote but SoundCloud isn't playing nice ATM, not sure if it's the site or my adblocker- either way it's close to her phrasing but I'm going from memory, the episode is Male Rape from You Were Here on WERS) and when given an example of a man being drugged into compliance declared that that wasn't rape, it was just "unwanted contact." You see, "rape" needs to be reserved for girls and women because men don't feel violation or shame like ~~real people~~ women do.
Or when KY wanted to pass a law requiring family court judges operate from a rebuttable presumption of equal custody in contested child custody cases - that is that both parents having equal custody is what's best for the child unless there's a good reason for it to be otherwise. Out comes the feminist opposition and trying to align any supporters of it with domestic abusers.
And I could keep going like this for a while if I really wanted to, but probably 9/10 readers stopped several paragraphs ago.
I don't see how any of that applies to what I said.
If you want to focus on the worst proponents of these ideologies, please let's take a closer look at MGTOW and see if it's a reaction to misandry or if it's just straight-up misogyny. Because I promise you it's straight-up misogyny.
My point was there was lots of space in which to be anti-feminist which doesn't mean "based in the idea that women shouldn’t be equal to men", because defining feminism as the idea than men and women should be equal and thus anti-feminism as the opposite of that is grossly ignoring the difference between dictionary definitions and practice.
It's like saying someone is anti-Christian means that they hate their neighbors and oppose charity and community, and just ignoring all the things done by people placing themselves under that label allegedly in the name of that label.
Nope, feminism is based on the idea that only a sectorized group of people should have rights. In this case, women. They don't fight for elderly, children, men, disabled, not even for LGBT.
You can't just make up new definitions for established words.
It happens all the time. Feminism was women's rights until they rebranded and claim it's for everyone. Literally can be used to mean figuratively. Inflation used to be a measure of the loss of value in a currency, now it's just generic price increases for any reason. Racism used to be about a belief in the superiority of a race, then it got refined to only apply to a race with privilege.
Ok if we are going to sectorize fights, so why there isn't a masculinism? Who The fck cares about men right? And when trying to fight then calling alt right. You can all go to hell all the sectorized groups bullshit just fighting for self interests...