First off, I know it's only words, but I'm sincerely truly sorry for your loss. I too hope anon is doing ok, must be rough. Especially since, probably because his sister loved him so much, he apparently didn't experience it as an assault, but rather as "something weird that just is"; so he must miss her, and possibly even beat himself up for having ignored that "weird stuff" instead of seeing it as a cry for help... That sucks, because at 12 he sure wouldn't have had the maturity to see that as a sign, and with time, the "routine" of it would have set in, so it might not have set any alarm off... So yeah, I'm with you there: I truly hope he got some help too, even tho given our society, I'm afraid that even some of the people with the best intent might do more harm than good. Gosh this is though...