I do know what they say because both my racist narcissistic aunt and mother say it to me in my face. They get angry at me for telling them what they say is racist / homophobe / transphobe / supports genocide (they are pro Israël), tell me I act like a child, don't know anything about the world, have no respect, should keep my mouth shut, shouldn't have come, should be ashamed of myself. "Next time behave and let us speak our opinions (meaning shut up and listen) or don't come." So now I have cut them completely off. They are angry about that too but I blocked them so it's not my problem anymore. They are in their 70s so should die soon I hope. Makes this world just is little bit less horrible.