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Trying to be too serious too quick. You've gotta let the dopamine rush of the possibilities wear off before truly knowing if the person is a good fit.
This is a big one that I honestly still struggle with sometimes. I was on the opposite end of it for the first time earlier this year though.
I think I'm on the opposite end now, myself. My walls have gotten too high. Any tips?
I remember being on the receiving end of that, and this can actually be a good limit is test on compatibility regarding communication and boundaries. First step is to communicate that you feel it moving too fast. If the person is receptive and able to recalibrate without too much drama (it's understandable to get a little taken aback), that's a great sign. If their emotions go a little haywire, it might show signs of potential issues that may need to get worked out or that y'all aren't on the same page emotionally.
Ooh, new relationship energy can be intoxicating. Then once it wears off the other person loses their gloss and you realize they don't like dogs and chew too loudly.
For most people, yes. But me and my girlfriend talked kids, marriage and so on on our first date irl.
You should be discussing what you want early and take your time before deciding that you'll do it together
You can and should talk about those things early on. But there's a difference between...
(which is about ensuring an alignment of values)
And...
(which is trying to get too serious too quickly)