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When you're hanging out with your friends do you call over every racist you see in the hopes of convincing them that they can be better?
I strongly suspect that you too find places where you can disengage from horror and just exist without constantly defending your ethics and being dogpiled by a world that thinks you're at best misguided and at worst a cultural traitor.
I mean look at this, I explained why these spaces seem hostile in an extremely neutral and non-judgemental way and immediately got people who do not share my values at all tell me how I'm doing my values wrong because I'm not catering to them 24/7. It's exhausting.
We're not talking about hanging with friends and interrupting a conversation to call out them out over ethics. We're talking about people coming to you and engaging with you directly on this topic. It's hard to imagine a scenario more conducive to changing someone's mind, but you do have to put in effort instead of just dismissing them.
"I empathize but don't think you have the best approach" is not hostility. It's a disagreement.
Go check the modlog for the sort of shit that gets removed.
Infinite patience for "I'm curious about veganism, what motivates you?" or "I need X for my work, what vegan replacements are there" zero patience for "Lol vegans do you eat almonds you're evil and dumb and go fuck yourself".
Anyway I'm done with this. If you want to be convinced to be vegan you'll find a way. If you just want to vent at me because someone was rude to you once and you have a bee in your bonnet then pay me for therapy :p I said I'm not interested and you replied again so I'm blocking so that we both disengage.