As someone mentioned women are all different. Personally I don't mind a bit of rudeness, in fact I'd say it's necessary, but the most important aspect for me is that he values my sense of safety. Like without that nothing else can exist. That effectively just means that he is fine with who he is and is able to just have fun without making things weird. I think guys often don't realize the level of abuse women have to deal with. It just goes on and on! So don't fall into that category, it's pretty fundamental.