I remember in reddit following nextduckinglevel to simply be a bit more up to date with people commenting on this types of things and after that I started to enjoy less reddit, this type of communities make reddit similar to other social media liked Instagram and I don't enjoy seeing extreme things all the time or people just trying to get the attention. I stop following the community after a while and the experience got better for me.

I don't see much different between reddit and lemmy besides lemmy being in the fediverse thus it's a plus on my book. But you decide what communities you follow, if you are not enjoying it stop following what makes you not enjoy the platform, this is not tiktok where they put videos on you face, you choose what type of content you want to see and follow things you want to follow not things you should follow.