Ultimately, there's a difference between social media and an organized party, if we aren't bound by DemCent and aren't speaking with comrades, but anyone from fascists to liberals, there's little to be done in the way of productive tone policing. It's a nuanced issue, transphobes, racists, fascists, etc shouldn't really be protected out of "civility." Moreover, telling people expressing anger towards reactionaries to "tone it down" and keep being patient can backfire, especially in the case of marginalized comrades who are used to being silenced by reactionaries.