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You can be social and go to events but that only helps you meet people, it doesn't mean you'll make friends. I've recently moved, first year I was completely alone because I thought that eventually someone would come up to me. Most people are like that. They're passive and expect friendship to pop out of thin air. I put together a basic strategy and now I have 2 friends I hang out with and a few acquaintances. Here it is, hope it helps.
A lot of the advice other posters give is great for meeting people. But it implies that you're already able to turn a meeting into a friend. You'll probably suck at it for the first 3 months as you flex your conversation muscles, don't worry about it. It's a long-term process and it will get easier. Oh and of course modify the advice to suit your situation.