[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 36 points 1 year ago

I don't think it's hardware. It's a differentiator. Tell me why I (or whoever) should pick an Xbox over a PlayStation?

What else differentiates it from the PS5 in a positive way?

The thing is, it's not even Games Pass or the hardware. For me, as a PC gamer, having an Xbox would be redundant. Anything an Xbox can do, my PC just does strictly better without a cumbersome UI and additional online subscription.

I own a PS5 for access to Sony exclusives when they launch, instead of waiting 1-5 years for the PC ports. I also get access to PS Plus' extensive classic collection and indie collections, which, regardless of the price of the subscription, broadens my gaming library extensively--something Xbox simply doesn't do.

Why would I purchase a console that only gives me access to the same games on a worse system vs a console that expands my library considerably?

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago

It's all good! I chose Beehaw for a reason, I will always engage in good faith and give you the same benefit of the doubt!

It honestly wasn't my intention to call anyone out, I just had some concerns based on what I saw. I'm glad we get to continue the conversation 😀

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I agree with your comment that the history, and how that history has affected marginalized groups, specifically, is important to learn and recognize--and I think this is true of most of western culture.

Like !DrBob@lemmy.ca said, this article doesn't feel like that. It cherry picks its sources and the author seems to fundamentally misunderstand Stoicism. In fact, it seems to me that the author is misattributing the failings and misunderstandings of some of Stoicism's bad actors to the philosophy itself.

I have personally found Practical Stocism to be a useful tool in my own mental health journey, especially where it relates to recognizing and controlling my responses to things other people do or say in my relationships, why my responses are what they are and what I can do about those responses. It has never been taught to me as a tool of suppression, but of experience, acceptance, and, ultimately, control. If I am able to recognize what I am feeling and why, I am better able to decide for myself whether or not it would be valid to respond out of that emotion, or if doing so would perpetuate a cycle it would healthier to break. It's not about not feeling, it's about giving me the tools I need to decide how best to respond to what I'm feeling.

That being said, I fully recognize that language evolves and changes and that the word stoicism without the illumination now has negative connotations for mental health, and is mostly associated with unhealthy coping mechanisms and behaviors. Perhaps it would be more useful to ask where the disconnect between Stoicism and stoicism truly lies, and how we, as men (or as humans, since a lot of this ties into basic concepts of emotional maturity) can display different and better behaviors to change the association (if, indeed, we're even interesting in doing so?).

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

/r/menslib was actively curated to be a safe place for men to discuss men's issues and allyship without toxicity, and we had a good balance of men, women, and nonbinary posters. Its most active mod was an LGBTQ+ trans individual who was very aggressive about purging trolls and bad actors, and I found it to be a supportive and reasonable place.

Now that I'm looking back, there may have been a /r/mensliberation once upon a time that unfortunately was a copy space of MRA, MGTOW, and Red Pill, but if it did actually exist, I never subbed or participated and it likely would have been quarantined / purged when the others were.

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

Well, that'll teach me to read an article and then not engage in the conversation that follows. I'm not a Stoicism stan, as you say, but I have found Practical Stoicism a useful tool in my life, especially when it comes to recognizing and owning my own contributions (positive and negative) to my relationships.

I'll go back and reply to you in the other thread so we don't derail this one.

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 14 points 1 year ago

There's a link in the top 5 posts to a "philosophy" article that cherry picks limited sources in order to misrepresent Stoicism as a philosophy as mere garden variety stoicism in the more modern vernacular, and then uncritically blames it as the source of all toxic masculinity.

Perhaps "misinformation" was a strong accusation, but articles like that are certainly not written in good faith, regardless of the intent in sharing them.

Perhaps I should edit my post to use less inflammatory language. Sorry.

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Reddit as a whole was an absolute cesspool, I don't deny that. But some of us were lucky enough, through lots and lots of searching and trial and error and weeding out of bad eggs, to find a few places where we felt welcomed and accepted without judgment.

I'm sorry that you never did!

Luckily, I think Beehaw and Blahaj are doing an admirable job, and I'm happy to be a part of it!

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

Oh, thanks for the link. I'm sorry I missed that discussion, but it's good to know I'm not the only one who'd be interested in a space like this and I'm glad the admins are aware of the need.

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago

This was not at all my experience in the specific community I'm asking about recreating here, which is why I'm asking.

I also don't agree with the take that extremism of some form or fashion is the only natural course of human discourse. I'm sorry your experience of people has left you with such a negative view of them.

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One of my most active subs on Reddit was /r/MensLib, an open, pro-feminist, trans-inclusive space for people to discuss men's issues without toxicity and without anger or violence directed at women or men. It was a (mostly) wonderful community that fostered lots of genuine, heartfelt discussion, and it would seem to me that Beehaw as an instance would be the perfect place for such a community to take root on Lemmy.

I'm aware of the community on lemmy.ca, but there is both an article written in bad faith (though I don't think it was posted in bad faith) and a post from a bad actor on the front page that has been up for several days with no mod action, which concerns me.

Thoughts?

(Edited to be more fair to the most active poster on the lemmy.ca community, as I don't think they're posting in bad faith and I should have been clearer about that)

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 18 points 1 year ago

"I Put a Spell on You" is commonly attributed to CCR since they covered it on their debut album, but it's actually a Screamin' Jay Hawkins original.

The now infamous Billy Ray Cyrus debut single, "Achey Brakey Heart", was actually a cover of The Marcy Brothers' "Don't Tell My Heart". They were released within a year of each other but the Cyrus cover exploded in popularity in Australia (yes, Australia), and the rest is history.

Cyndi Lauper's biggest hit, "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun", was a Robert Hazard cover.

Elvis Presley had a really bad habit of ripping off lesser known (black) blues artists. As in, of the 24 songs off his first 2 albums, 20 of them were covers, bad.

There's so many more I can think of off the top of my head, like Johny Cash's cover of NIN's "Hurt" getting Trent Reznor to say it "wasn't my song anymore" after seeing the video, but I think that'll do for now.

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 13 points 1 year ago

Since what everyone else has suggested hasn't worked, there's 3 more things to test:

  1. Update your BIOS. Depending on the age difference between your CPU and your MOBO, the BIOS might not be configured correctly for your CPU and thus half your RAM is unable to be addressed.

  2. Test your RAM sticks and memory slots individually. Put your sticks in the primary channel (per your MOBO specs) one at a time and reboot to see if they're actually working. Then try moving them around to see if the issue is a bad slot, rather than a bad stick.

  3. Are you sure you're not running a 32-bit OS? You'd be capped at 4GB system memory on 32-bit Windows, for example, no matter how much physical RAM you have.

[-] Vestria@beehaw.org 11 points 2 years ago

So it's time to delete my old IG if I can remember the log in, got it.

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