This is the hardest thing in the world to understand. And yet. True

A classic

Protip for those of us that have trouble with telling the difference:

Do you want a solution, or support?

If you struggle with this enough that your partner has taken issue with it, this will show that you're trying, and that you want to help, even if you don't know what to do. Can't express how much this has helped me.

And if the response you get is something along the lines of "You should just know!" Run.