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submitted 2 months ago by PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

It’s obvious and you would be deluded into thinking everyone you interact with likes you.

But how do you feel it?

Context: I’m a course instructor and I get direct reviews on my lessons and around 95% of feedback is positive to very positive.

There’s less than 5% of my reviews that have real negative and non-constructive comments. Things like accusations of being incompetent or unprepared or full of shit, etc. They mention times I had technical difficulties or made a mistake (like giving an incorrect response)

Just by the numbers alone this is a very small minority overall. Yet these comments stick in my head and make me doubt my abilities.

So what are your strategies or ways you drown out this stuff?

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[-] InputZero@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

As I have gotten older, I have learned to realize that there are people who can not forgive and can not forget. They are the most negative-nellies, and will judge you and most likely themselves bad for just being human. I still listen to them, that's basic human respect. I don't let their words tear me down, that's basic self respect.

"What we got here is, a failure to communicate. Some men you just can't reach." - Cool Hands Luke.

[-] ulkesh@beehaw.org 2 points 2 months ago

I just stopped caring. Why should it matter if people like me? Life is a very short, fleeting construct. Wasting time worrying about what some other human thinks of me makes literally no difference in the grand cosmos. I’d rather put my energy toward something interesting.

[-] frauddogg@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Indifference. They let just any ignorant sack of shit with working thumbs access review pages; and a lot of people aren't just ignorant in this day and age, they are proudly and willfully ignorant. The only people whose critique I take seriously are those I know and trust, everyone else can suck-start a chainsaw imo.

[-] vfreire85@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 months ago

work on your self-confidence and self esteem. go check a psychologist.

[-] PrincessLeiasCat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

There are 9-10 billion people on this planet.

Among those people, you have countless personal preference based on everything from what they expect to what makes them comfortable based on past experience.

There are also 10% or so with ADHD and other things, changing it up even more.

So run all of that through a computer showing you a majority of the likely outcomes, and there you go. There’s no way that your style, your choice of content, your presentation, how you present the material, etc, will please everyone because it’s impossible to do.

[-] Hikermick@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

I prefer to be liked as opposed to being disliked but I take pride when certain people dislike me

[-] Hirom@beehaw.org 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

These 5% of negative reviews probably has nothing to do with you. There's always a small amount of people unhappy for random or unrelated reasons (broke up with boy/girlfriend, car broke, etc) and who would write negative reviews no matter what. It's possible they cannot dissociate the course from other things happening in their life. They just happened to be unhappy at that time, and felt like leaving a nasty review.

[-] Etterra@lemmy.world -3 points 2 months ago

Are you fucking serious? Did you never get bullied in school as a kid or something? Are you that privileged? What the fuck.

[-] PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 months ago

Yep 100% serious. I was bullied quite a bit in school so I’m not sure how you’re drawing this conclusion. Sorry you’re upset though.

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