Friend: Brings up really cool idea for something to do

Me: Awesome! When do you wanna do it?

Friend: blank stare uhhh, I'll have to figure it out, this week isn't good

EVERY TIME

They don’t understand that the planning and setting expectations is what enables me to have fun.

"Who's going?"

"How many people will be there?"

"How far of a drive is it?"

"What's parking like?"

"How expensive is it there?"

These are all very important questions.

I prefer to contribute nothing then pull out last min at the slightest inconvenience.

Bro we could use that in our group, we are at the point every few weeks someone says we should meetup and do something and we all say "yeah!" then nothing until a few weeks later someone else suggests we do something.

Do a little research in advance to answer one of those questions yourself, and then send a message with that, and the rest of the questions. It takes pressure off the next person to send a message, since you've already done 1/4 of the planning, they won't feel like they're going to end up "in charge". And once one person responds, it'll flow more naturally into a conversation, as the stakes are lower for each new person joining in.

Something like, "It sounds like they don't take reservations. We wanna show up as we can, or meet up first?"

Was this made by my wife? Are you her? She really has to know all the minutiae of the flow before deciding whether it's worth going with.

Not a dig at her, btw. It can be frustrating to deal with in the moment (I'm more go with the flow than she is), but when we get there and everything goes smoothly, I genuinely appreciate her already having it figured out.

Holy shit, I fucking love this 😂

I'm sending this to anyone I'm making plans with for the rest of eternity

"Anyone finna give me a lift?" Offloads all those concerns to someone else and I no longer feel guilty about that

Executive dysfunction go brrr

i bring a real "i dont go anywhere, or like being in public, stop asking me to join you or meet you in places i do not like, also i prefer staying at home" energy to the party that nobody likes to any degree.

The 4W of planning an event: What, Where, When, Who. We instinctively answer these automatically when making a calendar event.

Once this is settled, you can elaborate on the How.

Yeah, but you always have tissues and mints and make sure the others join the conversation and that time you paid when my car got towed. Won't ever forget it.

I always worry about parking. Getting towed is a hassle.