I love small talk. It's just noises that communicate emotion or very basic information, and it has a script!

Yeah, that depends what you mean by small talk. I think you know what you mean, but I'm not sure that we know what you mean.

I think no matter what we do most of the things are outoff our control

I wish I knew why small talk is important and why the example in the post is a problem. It would be helpful if someone could explain it.

You need small talk to find the big talk.

Of course they dont say stuff like that.

Great thinkers have been telling us that free will is an illusion for decades.

I mean, that would be ridiculous......

Its me, they're talking about me aren't they?

Sorry, what i meant to say was, I think there's always at least two ways to go about things and, whatever side you fall on, you just have to follow your truth because, ultimately, you have to be true to yourself. I think thats all you can do really because, if you're not being true to yourself, then you're living a lie.

So, you've just got to do what you've got to do because, at the end of the day, it is what it is and that's not going to change anytime soon.

I've heard some people talking about not being able to sustain meaningful relationships. Well, I don't know much about that. But what I do know is that I enjoy the freedom of doing things my way and to just be me. If being against me not being me is wrong, then I don't think I want to want to be right.

Are you happy now? Is that what you wanted of is it still "too big" for you, John?