I hate to be the bearer of bad (good?) news, but, at least based on this post, it does not sound like you've defeated your anxiety. You're just anxious that you're not anxious enough lol

Society has convinced us that we have to always be doing something and contributing to the economy in some way. There is nothing wrong with having fun and just living life.

If anxiety was your only driver you basically don't know how to be productive without it. Productivity is a learned skill, but when you're basically fear driven you never learn it.

So yes now you have to learn how to find self motivation and learn how to apply yourself without feeling terrible first

Basically if you did the job in 1/10ths the time when anxious you now have more time to get these things done and not in a rush. Do you tasks and feel chill about it cuz you don't wait to the last minute.

Anxiety as a driving force isn't really great for your health, so I would be happy to be rid of it. You should look into treating the ADHD itself, could be with a medical professional and trying if there are meds that work for you. One of my kids also has ADHD and we did find some meds for her that help after going through a few options.

You could also try controlling it yourself, this is a bit of mixed bag though and I would recommend exploring the medical options if they're available for you.

For example, I'm quite a bit older than you and I never got it formally diagnosed, so no meds. I try to keep work and free time as separate as possible. For example during work hours my personal PC is strictly off, I do my work with another PC that only has access to my music and what is required for work, no other media that could distract me. I need to always do something, so basically the work gets done because I don't have anything else to do. I don't always stay on the right task, but this works well enough for me.

People and ADHD are both on a wide spectrum, so it's always a bit of trial and error to find out what works for you

That is honestly a pretty incredible outcome. Cannabinoids only help me control my anxiety, they've never gotten rid of it like that. I know what you mean though, I have been hypomanic and feel strongly that I wouldn't have taken the plunge with my first business without that.

It doesn't change that it was mental illness though, and I'm better off not being that way. I think you're probably better off without your anxiety. You talk about pursuing success; a lot of people - mostly in their 30s and up I'll admit - would class "being able to sit with a beverage and enjoy life regardless of income" as the definition of success.

On the other hand, is your anxiety really gone? Or is it still there, as part of why you procrastinate? If your panic coping mechanism is gone and can't compensate for procrastination anymore, maybe it's time to try and figure out why you procrastinate instead of just doing the thing and then getting back to your beverage and chair?

Yes, the anxiety, guilt, pressure that gets it done eventually in a panic frenzy, when the adrenaline kicks in. It was not a good life, though.

For my son, I don't want that, I want to be understanding that he might have a dopamine/noradrenaline imbalance that would make it disproportionately cruel to force him to clean his room right now. (He's getting checked, of course, but in the meantime got to take my best guess.)

But the result is that he does not get even priority tasks done, sometimes.

I'm sure I can find a different way for him, starting with getting him checked. Some methods also work for him. E. g.: Don't have to do it right now, but when it's 5 p.m. / the video is done / whatever, set a stopwatch and do 10 minutes of cleaning. Or, since he can't find where to start, do one thing: All garbage into a bag, or all toys into the box, or all dirty clothes into the wash.

Don't get your anxiety back, find a different way for yourself.

Adderall helped me with this temporarily if that is something accessible to you.

I’ve smoked weed daily for the past 4 years and over time it helped me slow down my mind to identify situations that give me anxiety. I’ve practiced either avoiding those situations or taken the time to understand why those situations give me anxiety.

I am a people pleaser and would do everything I could to make others jobs at work easier at my own expense. I got lots of praise and good raises because of it. After learning to deal with my anxiety I just can’t put myself back into that position anymore.

I started taking Adderall which helped for a few months but I didn’t stop with the weed so I feel like i’m back at square one as my body has gotten used to it.

Currently trying to abstain from weed to see if it helps but struggling with the irritability and anger.

You don't owe it to society to be productive. If you're happier then you've made a positive change.

This might not be the perfect analogy but this made me think of people I know who find healthy relationships "boring" and prefer unhealthy relationships with a lot of fighting and drama because it's more exciting.

But at the end of the day the healthy relationship is healthier, it just "feels" uncomfortable until one can realign to it. As another comment says, you feasibly have more time to do the same tasks and, thus, avoid any stress or anxiety but that is possibly going to feel weird and uncomfortable because of the anxiety you were so used to attaching to it.

Maybe it'll just take some time?

You should probably see a doctor about this issue. I'm neurodivergent too, and the one time I had cannabis it messed me up too.

I cannot recommend the stuff, no matter how many junkies say it doesn't hurt.