"bent out of shape over something you can't even remember"
I'm pretty sure he probably remembers he's been circumcised whenever he goes to the bathroom, takes a shower, changes his underwear...
If a person is drugged or blackout drunk is it ok to rape them if they don't remember?
Is it ok for a parent to put tattoos on their child if they get it done while the baby is young enough not to remember?
Someone can come to terms with a situation and still be allowed to be angry about it.
We can do both. The problem is the people that believe certain people don't "deserve" help.