[-] Duranie@midwest.social 20 points 10 months ago

We can do both. The problem is the people that believe certain people don't "deserve" help.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 34 points 10 months ago

"bent out of shape over something you can't even remember"

I'm pretty sure he probably remembers he's been circumcised whenever he goes to the bathroom, takes a shower, changes his underwear...

If a person is drugged or blackout drunk is it ok to rape them if they don't remember?

Is it ok for a parent to put tattoos on their child if they get it done while the baby is young enough not to remember?

Someone can come to terms with a situation and still be allowed to be angry about it.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 15 points 10 months ago

There's an actual quality true crime podcast called Crime Junkie, and an associated podcast specifically dedicated to cold cases called The Deck. It's a whole thing for some people, but occasionally a listener hits on something and makes a phone call that gets the ball rolling again.

I listen because I find it interesting, but that's the extent of it. Some people it's truly a hobby, or more to chase information down.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 13 points 10 months ago

I work in hospice and have seen patients (and family members) 90+ who I could have mistaken for late 60s - early 70s. I also recently met a patient's wife who was 20 years younger than him, but was in worse shape and looked his age (82) if not older. Genetics and life experience are wild.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 11 points 11 months ago

People wear make up for different reasons and have different approaches to wearing it. For all I know you think anyone wearing red lipstick makes them a whore. I don't draw conclusions about what people do with their genitals based on that they put on their faces. I was just trying to figure out how you were coming to your conclusions.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 15 points 11 months ago

You don't even need to heat the plastic for the sauce to stain it. Fats want to bond with plastics, making plastics harder to clean + tomato sauce is awesome at staining. Heating might make it worse, but it's not necessary.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 12 points 11 months ago

I'm right there with you Lol!

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 39 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

While I get your point, it didn't read as supportive to me. To me it read as a statement of "this is what I observed" not "this is my judgement of the kind of person he is."

Like if someone asked me what kind of person a coworker was. If my answer was "I saw them do their job" it can be a factual statement of my experience and really, isn't necessarily helpful. It just means I didn't witness them doing anything bad.

Edit - rereading as someone just posted a copy of the letter. While I can see some focus on positive interactions with his daughter, it still strikes me as a factual "this is what I observed" and far less the emotional supportive standpoint that bled through from some of the other letters that were submitted.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 26 points 1 year ago

I think that was a smartly written letter from the standpoint that he told the truth of his observations from his perspective, but made no attempt to sway opinion of Danny's character. Under the circumstances if you really feel compelled to submit a letter, it's the honest way of doing it.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 11 points 1 year ago

"You might have to look at different areas and consider the differences."

Always, but there are certain factors that aren't so pliable. Getting a loan based on your income at a stable job means that you need to live within a reasonable area to continue to access that job. Six years ago when I was looking for a house I could have moved to a lower cost of living area, but that would have meant a 90 minute commute or changing jobs (at which time would have been an irresponsibly risky move.) Another factor was the question of changing school districts, and custody arrangements with the kids father. I wasn't, but I know some who are restricted by custody agreements where they are required to live in certain districts or within X number of miles of the other parent. People in those situations don't get to shop around and find other areas to live.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 23 points 1 year ago

Buying in a lower cost of living area is easier when you don't have to consider things like school districts for children, availability of public transportation to get to work, or even safe walkable areas to get groceries.

[-] Duranie@midwest.social 16 points 1 year ago

As an older Gen-Xer, who had married another older Xer far too young (because we were brought up that all we needed to do was get a job and life would be awesome) I can agree that some in my age range are definitely watered down boomers. Which is also a fair part of the reason why he's my ex husband now.

As the mother of 3 Gen Z sons, I couldn't be more proud of the amazing men they're becoming, and couldn't be more disgusted about the conditions that some of my generation and those before me have created for them.

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