You don't believe science. Science is the process of understanding and learning about the universe. There is nothing to believe. If you agree you agree, if you disagree you prove otherwise. No dogmatism, rituals, beliefs, traditions are present unlike religions. So apples to oranges.
You can also choose to understand science if you invest enough time. You cannot, for example, see a god if you work hard. Again, apples to oranges.
Both parties should contribute equally.
That being said it's a grey area. When I was out of a job and my bf worked 12 hour shifts, and came home exhausted and defeated, I didn't mind doing all the work in the house. He did the same thing when I was working and he lost his job. Etc.
It's more like "I can do this if you don't have the time/energy" and less like "I am required to do this because he is required to handle finances" though. Every relationship is different so this would be better answered in relationship_advice, with context and background explained
Can you elaborate what you mean by things that science can't explain?
Everything came from randomness and is mostly narrated by it, and there's no escape from it. You may hit the lottery or end up with a rare fatal disease any time, your life will be changed and there's nothing you can do about it. It's not about god granting you awards or punishing you, it just happens. From this POV getting depressed because I went through x feels like getting depressed because water flows.
Life is painful, also joyful, beautiful and really ugly, gross and amazing. You're supposed to fall, get hurt and then get up and run a bit more until you can't anymore. Every good and bad thing will pass in time
At college I walked to the nearest train station to pick up half smoked cigarette butts when I couldnt afford a pack of cigs (~10 km). At the end of the month usually. Me & my then boyfriend waited until like 2 am then walked the city to go through clothes & house items left besides the dumpsters. This was before covid and all that
We did some acid with my then boyfriend. When we went to sleep that morning, he couldn't sleep. He tossed and turned, still nothing. Then he had a sudden sort of "vision" of his friend in an unfamiliar room. He called him and described the room, turns out the friend was at his childhood home, visiting his parents. He described the room pretty clearly and his friend was flabbergasted - if thats the correct word. This is the one thing I could not explain, although had some theories on how acid might enhance the "receiver" part of the brain. There's not enough research done so that stayed as a theory. We did acid a bunch of times later, couple times just to experience something similar, but it never did.
In ramadan, people fasted all day long and broke their fast at evening. In the morning, my granma prepared "keşkek"; tomato paste, wheat and stock, put it all in a clay pot called "caba". She'd take the caba's, hand me a bunch of firewood and we'd walk to the neighbors house. Everybody in the neighbourhood did this. They had a huge outdoor oven, everybody would bring firewood and their caba's. Then they'd put all of the cabas in the oven, fire it and let it cook, until it's evening, time to break the fast. The food would slowly cook in fire and when it's time to break the fast, the whole neighbourhood smelled like delicious keşkek. Then you'd go get your cabas from the neighbor, and there would be this thick crust on top. That was my favorite, and honestly I haven't had anything that smells or tastes that good. I'd wait for ramadan every year. Of course I wouldn't fast because I was just a kid
Aerobic respiration is overrated
Yeah, that's what it boils down to.
My train of thought was more directed towards trying to understand her mindset and why she converted.
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I just found out she converted to islam after her departure. I've been thinking about this.
It is easy to believe a religion is "the good one" when it's under represented because the members of the religion don't really have the power over the society so they don't, or can't, hold other people down with their extremist ideals.
When I first left islam I went through something similar. Here majority is muslim and other religions are scarce. So christians seemed like peaceful modern people minding their own business, respecting women and stuff. Which they were. But as I learned about the church and bible and all that, I understood I failed to analyze the religion as a whole properly. I just looked into a very small window and thought that was the whole thing.
Christianity was the antithesis of islam for me for a while. It's the same with the artists and rich white folks who convert to islam. They get new eccentic sounding names and their melodies change. But they never really live in a real muslim community nor they experience a VERY oppressive muslim culture. They get this image of a religion where you casually cover your head if you want to and nobody cares about anything other than inner peace. Which is cool but far, far from any kind of reality.
Thank you, my man. It's weird how many people have negative thoughts about this without knowing anything about it. I'm not even an antinatalist lol, though I'm very close to it, I am childfree - those communities only represented the most extreme, most hostile persons and I've never participated. But that doesn't matter to the humanistic, holistic, full of virtue person. Talk about self awareness and irony.
It's okay, I've been online enough to observe that when s certain kind of person feel that they can't "win" the argument by discussion, they tend to take it to to the personal level and enrage you by insults. For me there's no winner, just ideas being discussed so I'm not offended. So boring to have such a fragile mindset that can be broken so easily by mere thoughs it has to be defended. Now what's depressing is knowing that these people hold the majority. Still, thanks for your concern.
Childfree lifestyle is becoming the norm fast, btw - even in my little family oriented country, childfree services such as hotels have increased rapidly, and childfree people aren't that frowned upon anymore. People can downvote and insult me here all they want but things are changing because they have to. Soon there will be more, and it will be a normal thing to have a neighbor childfree old couple. Then we will be able to talk about it without getting pitchforked to hell and back.