That sounds delicious, was there a certain recipe you used?

That is really stressful and sad. Try to be there for her but also keep in mind what is and is not inside your (and her) sphere of influence. But you can't give yourself away for her. I hope she pulls through soon.

Do you have someone you can practice interviewing with? This is just an idea, but maybe you and a friend can slowly warm up to a challenging interview by working on one bit at a time, taking it slow. And I mean slow. Like maybe this weekend you can do an "interview" for a maximum of 5 minutes, and only practice introducing yourself. Then do it again next weekend. If you get comfortable, make it 6 minutes the third week and start talking about your past work. Then 7 minutes and include what you're seeking out of your future job. Then 8 minutes and have them start to ask challenging questions. Also, this might be horrible advice because I don't know you and I also hate interviewing! I will say, when you interview, be your authentic self because if they hire you as your inauthentic self, it might not end up being a great fit.

I think I'm missing a puzzle piece on that one 🫠.

I guess I was more wondering what you like about the characters, and what makes you want to be around them. Can you learn things from them and apply them to your life? If you do, then you will be around them when you're around yourself!

Crap!

Don't forget to load in tons of water. Be patient with yourself today. Only do what you have to until you're feeling better.

I hope tomorrow is a fresh start for you!

That's so kind and awesome of you.

Is it looking like a long term situation?

I hope that when you're feeling better you can use that time to find a way to get more support. But more than all, I hope you're feeling better. Lean on your friends, they love you.

You can't help anyone else if you can't take care of yourself first. That's a really hard position to be in, but you have to do it for your benefit and eventually for his too.

In fact, if I found out my lady wanted me out but didn't flip the switch, I would be pretty upset about the time we lost living in that state. That time could have been spent rediscovering myself or finding my next partner. What a missed opportunity!

Oof... Yeah it is hard to deescalate with a person who is primally furious with you. It was probably really scary for them, and it sounds like they might not have been emotionally intelligent enough to handle it. I'm glad you and everyone are ok.

I'm also in software and, yes, depending on what kind of business you're in people often have no idea what they want. Do you like reading? One thing that helped me in those situations is Don Norman's book, the design of everyday things. It helps me get into a big picture mindset.

Can you cultivate the traits you like from the people in the story?

I don't know anything about it. Can you tell me about what you would want to do there and why?

Under appreciate them right back. Try to keep work about funding your lifestyle.

I don't know how intense or emotional your job is, so that advice might not be practical. But I do think everyone needs to set boundaries, but also emotional boundaries. Please make sure work isn't wearing you down when you aren't there. Try taking a few minutes to reset after clocking out, and close the door on your work day.