I got deeply into this (genre?) when I burned out on a combination of playing big/tough games and the stresses of life. I also enjoyed the pace of Outer Wilds and Subnautica. Some other favourites:

• Supraland 1/2 (low combat, light hearted metroidvania, I loved it)
• Psychonauts 2 (amazing adventure game, big but not hard. I loved collecting everything, it was a great balance)
• Tinykin (similar adventure, a bit like Pikmin, which is also great. Lots of chilled collecting)
• Spiritfarer (lots of freedom, loose plot, not overwhelming)
• Breath of the Wild (do what you want, very nice discovery elements)
• TOEM, A Short Hike, GRIS and Cocoon (light adventure / puzzle games, peaceful but could be boring if you want action)
• Yokus Island Express (lovely metroidvania, chilled gameplay, not overwhelming)
• It Takes two (humour, light combat - played with my young son)
• Unravel 1/2 (easy-ish puzzles)
• Weirdly, I found Sniper Elite 4/5 fairly chill, lots of scoping out areas
• Overcooked 2 (zero stress if you play practice mode a ton before attempting a level. I found it a very zen/flow game)
• Peggle 1/2 (can be frustrating, but is very low stakes and arcadey. Lovely for short sessions)
• Wilmots Warehouse (can be stressful if you take the timer seriously, but I loved all the organising. Very satisfying)
• Vampire Survivors (can get a bit much, but pretty simple and disposable)

There are tons more, I deal with a lot of anxiety!

Some games I was recommended for this purpose that didn't land for me:

• Powerwash sim / other simulators (these feel like a second job for me. Constant grind and focus on perfection wasn't helpful)
• Tetris Evolution / Lumines (either gets too fast / hard, or gets boring)
• Stardew / Terraria (in theory these look great, but I find huge sandboxes too overwhelming. Always feels like I should be doing more stuff / doing it better)
• Roguelikes (I like Hades, Dead Cells, etc, but they're very stressful and frustrating when so much hinges on survival)

Finally, I'd suggest trying a solo board game. More tactile and relaxing alternative to screen time.

However long it would take me to find a tank of nitrogen to strap to my face for happy sleep time.

I'm probably in an echo chamber. I hope that 2nd application goes well for you.

In my experience, good candidates (including interns/juniors) are still landing the roles. Hiring in tech/design/product is tough because there's a deluge of applicants who've either coasted during the boom, or been sold a lie by an educational institution.

You can spot the ones who apply for 40 jobs a week, and those who've used chatGPT a mile off, and they're usually the worst candidates, with long, bland, unfocused resumes.

LinkedIn is full of my worst ex-colleagues bemoaning the lack of opportunities, like they're entitled to it.

Please tell me if I'm being unfair. Maybe I should be less cynical.

I know what you mean, but it would depend on my current situation. Assuming I've had to find another job with short notice (and I'm still in my probation period) it could be a great opportunity to leverage a massive pay increase, then spend the next year planning a proper move.

I wouldn't list it as separate employment on my CV, unless I knew it was going to be scrutinised, in which case, it's easily explained and reflects pretty well - they wanted me back.

Plenty of men can deal with this, and plenty of women can't. It's not helpful to see this as a gender thing, you'll only feel more alienated. You might want to seek out some new social connections?

I've been though divorce recently and despite being very amicable, it's caused me to reset - some things broke, but being more emotionally open has been one of the good things. I'm still pretty reserved but a few things are different:

• I care a lot less about conforming to "ideals" or how anyone judges me. That means I no longer feel the fear and second guess everything I say.
• When appropriate, I ask people - especially other men - how they're doing and gently push for a genuine answer. No one's reacted negatively to that, so far.
• With my kids, I simply do the opposite to my father. I tell them I love them, I take an interest in them, and I take their feelings seriously. I don't coddle them, but I want them to feel secure and confident in talking to me. They're still young, so we'll see.
• During work 1:1s, I take a genuine interest in people, most will subtly drop hints that they had a bad weekend or are feeling tired or stressed. I used to gloss over that, now I'll ask about it and say I'm happy to listen. A surprising number will go on to share, with the bonus that it builds trust.
• If someone asks how I am, I won't lay it all out for them, but I'll be honest. Most people empathise and tell you they've been through similar. It's never been awkward, and I've found out nearly everyone I know is pretty anxious and is going through difficult stuff.

As an aside, I never watched much porn because I found it so cold and alienating. It's interesting that you found the opposite. Anyway, I'll stop there and wish you well!

That's a very good idea. Hopefully I'll never need it, but great advice.

That's terrible, I hope it all worked out, but absolutely never say anything until you've both signed a contract unless you're looking for a counter offer, which is risky AF.

People pull out of informal agreements all the time, it's not an employer thing - legal issues, real estate, appointments, competition prizes, dates...

After a couple of bad questions, I'll either excuse myself, suggest we carry on separately, or (ideally) ask to be sent a list, for me to ignore at my leisure.

Sorry Greg, we're not here to answer your dumbass questions, or indulge your hypothetical edge cases.

Maybe it's because I'm in a UX team and you hit a nerve, but "pull them into a quick meeting" summarizes my contempt for office life. The lack of boundaries and constant distraction was relentless.

I've met many Susies who, like me, dreaded the "Hey Suze, you got a minute?" because everyone vaguely recalls that we've worked on something related to their project. It was not as valuable or productive as you think. Pinging the person on Teams and not expecting an instant reply was the right thing to do, even back in the old days.

I love seeing people stand up to these mandates. I flat out ask the purpose for my physical presence, and unless it's an objectively good reason AND everyone else required will be present, I'm staying away. I've too often arrived at an office to sit on a Teams call.

I'm not contributing to traffic pollution and seeing my kids less to satisfy someone's whim or real estate investment. As far as I'm concerned, that ship has sailed. Virtual whiteboards exist. Welcome to the future.