ok so, is sex such a big part of your identity that it warrants taking the name of the thing you think is the hottest? and like, if that's the case, do you feel no grief about the idea that you can't directly participate in what you view as the hottest thing in the world?

okay, i understand your point of view. i think that the article blows it up a bit compared to the actual video clip in it. i think she's probably fine, she's an adult, she's choosing to do it again but more (idk why, it doesn't sound like it was a good experience, but ppl want to leave legacies, i guess)

in that clip, i don't feel like she broke down in tears, she like... had a an emotional moment. it seems like it was a different experience than what she expected but like... you know, she needed to eat and shit, too. if you caught me 14 hours into a fumbled noita (very difficult roguelite video game) run where i hadn't been eating or otherwise taking care of myself, you might catch me in frustrated distraught tears too lol, y'know? doesn't mean it's traumatic

in all honesty, it sounds like she had to confront how she felt about sex, how sex should go, how sex should go for other people, and frankly, that she believed more impersonal sexual experiences reduce you to a whore. and those are natural feelings to work through after such an experience, but there's no reason to assume she wasn't able to come to healthier thought patterns (everyone involved is a consenting adult, sex work is about choice, sex can be transactional and that's OK, there's actually nothing inherently wrong with being a whore, it's all societal judgement, etc etc etc)

anyways, i'm not her. i don't know what she was feeling in the moment, but whatever it was, it wasn't so bad that she's swearing off the idea, i think you can probably be reassured that she's okay and she'll continue to be okay even if she goes through with the 1k dudes things

does it not seem judgement to, when someone says something "was taxing", to instead interpret that as "damaging"? like, that is a much more severe interpretation (with the possible additional implication that it's permanent in a way)

especially in a sexual context and especially referring to women, implying someone was "damaged" by something carries a lot of implications

as a transgender person (man, specifically), i always wonder about the ostensibly cisgender people who make their enjoyment of opposite/same sex media their identity (so, basically, fujoshi and himedanshi)

no one is saying you can't enjoy a good love story / dirty story / whatever between two people of the opposite and same sex, but the weird part to me is where it becomes a part of your identity

like, before i knew i was trans, for a period of time when i was younger, i found myself really into a gay ship in a popular media. and i enjoyed it for a bit and then i was like, i don't really know why it was so compelling, but i thought it would be kind of weird to like, get really into it (as a woman, or so i thought at the time). so i dropped it and moved on with my life and found plenty of het pairings that i could see myself in, and it was fine

then i transitioned a decade later and i look back on it and go "oh", and now i understand why that gay ship was so compelling

so i mean, that's my lived experience. and you don't need to justify or explain your lived experience to anyone, least of all me, some random internet fucko

but i am curious what you find so compelling about the dynamics between two women that your consumption of yuri media merits identifying yourself as such (by this i mean, you like it so much you call yourself, literally, himedanshi)

as a gay man, i certainly read plenty of boy's love stories, and it has not escaped my attention that many of the authors are women. but i also read a decent chunk of girl's love comics and even a handful of more normative straight romance comics, the handful that establish a deeper connection between their lead couple than "he's a man and she's a woman and they fuck, duh"

but even for the boy's love stuff, i feel like it's not a huge part of my identity (i mean, maybe because there's not a special word for "guy into gay media", but even then, i don't think i'd use it more than casually)

anyways, those are my thoughts. but in reality, fuck what i or anyone else thinks, you do you, make you happy, life is too short not to

i'm amused by how judgemental this post comes off as in a nsfw sub. i think, much like you shouldn't claim that something wasn't damaging for someone else, you probably shouldn't claim that it was, if they themselves didn't state it as such. if i were more allosexual, i'd probably be into that, who doesn't love a lot of fucking lots of people? (obviously some people don't, but some people do!)

but i understand that you wanted to talk about this thought experiment and that was additional context for where the idea came from

ironically, i think i'd prefer a one night stand, or like, a date / one night stand (share a meal, do an activity and then fuck). i don't want to get to know someone, bond with them for a YEAR... so they could fuck me once and dip. what the hell LOL that's so much effort just to know you won't have any kind of relationship at the end

but like, a time limited thing, let's hang out for. a day and fuck at the end, then go back to our respective lives? that sounds pretty alright

yeah same, i was thinking about it the other night, but i was like... even if i found someone into it, i don't know that i'd be okay afterwards

i can't speak for all vulva'd people, but... i feel like that's mostly a porn thing.

the amount of times i licked my hand before masturbating: once, to see if it was good. it wasn't (and i find it kind of gross. no offense to ppl who are into it tho). and i masturbate a lot

pre-transition, getting it wet wasn't even that hard. why would i use spit for that lmao. i mean some people might have that issue, right, but i'd still rather just use lube if that were the case

i think it's just supposed to be hot for whatever reason

so my answer to this is pretty layered bc i'm a trans guy and the sensation for both has changed since starting testosterone

pre-transition, i liked anal but it was a lot of trouble for the reward and vaginal was super easy / pleasurable all the time (i was lucky and can orgasm from vaginal penetration, it used to be how i preferred to get off)

post-transition, anal is still a ton of work to prep for (esp given i consistently have gut issues)... but it's a WAY more pleasurable experience. i tend to re-discover it maybe twice a year. i'm not exactly sure what's caused it to become so much more intense (seriously, i get super shaky and wobbly nowadays), maybe testosterone made the nerves grow there more? i dunno

but also, post transition, vaginal is a lot more difficult (dry / sensitive) and i have to work pretty hard on getting warm enough to enjoy myself. i really have to be in the mood and have a lot of time on my hands and... well, sometimes it's hard to come by

i've edged for maybe a couple of days but it always leads to me being pent up and unsatisfied when i finally get off. so i try not to edge for that long and i always get myself off before i'm done. granted, on the other hand, i can always cum more than once. wondering if anyone else is like me

lollll i'm not a lady, but i did once have tits big enough to do it, and... i dunno if you ever heard someone talk about sucking their own dick before, but i've always heard it described as "more like sucking a dick, than having your dick sucked"... it's not bad, but the contortion required often impedes the pleasure, also. but maybe my tits just weren't big enough?

regardless, they're gone forever now!

well i mean yeah. but unionizing would be the thing to do about it. it's just hard because people are scared for their job and scared to be out of a job right now, so they don't want to take the risk. even though it's fairly obvious that it's a bigger risk not to...

Shulman adds: "They're getting away with it because everybody is doing it. And they're getting away with it because now it's the new normal," he said. "Workers are more comfortable with it, stock investors are appreciating it, and so I think we'll see it continue for some time."

ughh this makes my blood boil

yeah workers are "OK" with it, yeah, no, they're too fucking terrified they're next to do anything about it

hate this guy