when I worked at walmart some people would get so offended if I suggested wearing the opposite genders clothes even if the item was basically the same for males and females.
a polo shirt for men is cheaper and you're probably just wearing it because of your workplace why does it matter?
I don't expect my data to be fully deleted in a centralized system either. even if it was deleted from the central server someone might have made an archive of it
and reddit is definitely guilty of this since they were bringing back peoples deleted comments and accounts