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[-] Squirrelsdrivemenuts@lemmy.world 91 points 1 year ago

Thank you for not being the annoying guy trying to hit on girls 🙂

[-] effward@lemmy.world 81 points 1 year ago

The annoying thing is that the annoying guys are more likely to get a date, while they just go about their day. Not because they are better, or because their methods are good, but purely because they approach more people.

I hate making people feel uncomfortable (no matter their gender), so I always struggled finding "spontaneous" dates, or even dancing with strangers at a club/party.

The only thing that really worked for me was using dating apps, where both parties have implicitly indicated that they are looking for dates in general (because they're on the app) and explicitly indicated that they are interested in each other (by liking their profile, or whatever).

Although I've heard the apps have all gotten worse lately, I wouldn't really know, as I found someone on Tinder years ago, and now we're happily married.

[-] Gonzako@lemmy.world 33 points 1 year ago

I'll be honest, as long as you don't make it weird you can approach a lot of people be they're on the job or not. If they're on the job just ask them about the journey so far. Like, they're also human you can treat them as such.

[-] UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.works 32 points 1 year ago

Nah. Everyone I'm attracted to either better know it by my silence or well never be together

[-] Gonzako@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

Wow, what a relief, I thought you were into me

[-] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 3 points 1 year ago

I’ll be honest, as long as you don’t make it weird you can approach a lot of people be they’re on the job or not

Nah, people talk. If it's known that you've approached many people, you'll get an automatic rejection from the rest.

[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

If it’s known that you’ve approached many people,

Unless you live in Buttfuck Montana, how would that be known?

[-] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 1 points 1 year ago

We're talking within a work place. People do talk to each other.

[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Yes, and if I have my headphones on at work, that means I'm focusing on something and you shouldn't bother me unless it's important. That's what it means for most people. It certainly doesn't mean "this is a good time to ask me out."

[-] richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Tell that to people impervious to subtlety.

But I meant that if you ask out a lot of persons at work, all the others will know and they'll reject you preemptively.

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