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This is funny to me! I am definitely not the person to ask, I am not in that zone or area, but to me this is definitely a flirty sign. Granted, my wife loves beer as much as I do and we love sharing it and tasting, so if she did that to me in a club I'd assume she was flirting. (If she drank half my beer now then I'd be upset). Maybe some weird masculine "Breh mreh girls don't drink beer" BS?
The only thing I can think of as an old man is that post-covid, it's definitely not very sanitary, and maybe that's what scared them off? However, I wouldn't be going to a club if I was worried about that. Thinking about how many people's sweat you got on you that night...
Oh, to bring the tone down I should say be careful of drinking from drinks that aren't yours though. My wife was actually roofied. I was luckily there just in the bathroom when it happened, but that was the scariest night of my life. Some absolute asshole drugged her, I walked up and he pissed himself and ran away. It shattered all of my illusions about safety in clubs. So, maybe it would be best to just have your own...
Thank you so much! I'm relieved to hear that you would have interpreted it as I had intended, an innocent flirty sign. It was really the first time I had done that and agree about the sanitation/safety factors. What should I have done to fix it after that happened, if any? For example, I keep wondering if it would've helped for me to apologize and clarify my intentions, and try to continue dancing with him. Or do you think he would see that as desperate? Do you think he thought I was an "easy" person without boundaries?
Personally, I think you're reading into it too much there. I wouldn't think of it as something an easy girl would do, or desperate, or anything really, just oh, she took a sip from my drink. The only thing I can think of is some weird masculinity thing where he thought you were trying to steal his drink, if anything I think he's probably reading into it too much.
I would take it as "Okay, you're loss buddy" and move on. Find someone who wants to split a beer with you (and preferably uses their words instead of stomping off).
@scrubbles saliva on a glass is a magnitude more unsanitary than sweat/breathing if you think about things like EBV and hepatitus.