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Please help: What's your take on woman drinking guy's beer without asking after he starts dancing with her? (beehaw.org)
submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org
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Please be kind with me as I am new to this platform. I was at a club when a very handsome guy, totally my type, started dancing with me. I don't know what gave me the courage to take the half finished beer from his hand and take a sip of it without asking. I then gave his beer back to him, and he said he had to go but will be right back. It was an excuse to stop dancing with me since he just stayed put in his friend group without going anywhere. I've been feeling really bad after that happened and would have danced the night away with him if I could. And now I have no idea what his name or phone number is, just keep replaying that night in my mind.

What is your opinion on a woman taking a man's beer and having a sip without asking? Is it such an awful gesture that his sudden rejection was warranted? Was he angry, scared off, or just thought I was easy? I am not that type of person and had no ill intentions whatsoever. I just acted on natural impulse and was trying to be flirtatious. Thank you for any advice and comfort.

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[-] appledinosaurcat@beehaw.org 6 points 8 months ago

Thank you so much! I'm relieved to hear that you would have interpreted it as I had intended, an innocent flirty sign. It was really the first time I had done that and agree about the sanitation/safety factors. What should I have done to fix it after that happened, if any? For example, I keep wondering if it would've helped for me to apologize and clarify my intentions, and try to continue dancing with him. Or do you think he would see that as desperate? Do you think he thought I was an "easy" person without boundaries?

[-] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 4 points 8 months ago

Personally, I think you're reading into it too much there. I wouldn't think of it as something an easy girl would do, or desperate, or anything really, just oh, she took a sip from my drink. The only thing I can think of is some weird masculinity thing where he thought you were trying to steal his drink, if anything I think he's probably reading into it too much.

I would take it as "Okay, you're loss buddy" and move on. Find someone who wants to split a beer with you (and preferably uses their words instead of stomping off).

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