I haven't gone so far as "let's completely switch roles, you be the man and I'll be the woman. You pay at restaurants and when something goes bump in the night I'll sit here in bed holding the blanket to my chest while you go downstairs with the baseball bat." Never occurred to me.

I used to think I'd like it if women would approach me, ask me out, initiate sex, that sort of thing. Until a few of them tried. To put it mildly, there seems to be a widespread moderation problem. To put it bluntly, I have heard more women say "rape me" than "hey would you like to go out with me sometime?" It's either that or "hints." "Hints" aren't hints, they're intentionally failed attempts at communication.

When most of the women I've been with just outright ignored questions like "what do you like in bed?" "What do you want to do?" "Do you like that?" it makes me stop trusting them. "I don't know I'm a repressed farm girl from a rural county in a red state, I was taught that enjoying sex isn't something I'm physically capable of doing" is something I can work with at least in theory. But "Do you like that?" and it doesn't even register on her face that I've spoken...that screams "I'm using sex against you" louder than her voice ever could.

So yeah any fantasy of a woman who takes an active role was dumped in the same mass grave as my fantasy of flying an X-wing. I'm grown up enough now to know that these things just can't exist in the real world. In the real world I've had women that sometimes said "maybe I guess" and I've flown a few Cessnas and LSAs.