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[-] Flummoxed@lemmy.world 73 points 1 month ago

I lost myself. I married someone who slowly whittled me down to nothing over ten years.

I am divorcing him. It's been five months since I just didn't go home. It's been really hard, hardest thing I've ever done, but I'm coming back to life slowly.

I can't wait to see who I become.

[-] shapis@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 month ago
[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.autism.place 5 points 1 month ago

Same, but I didn't marry them. I became nearly completely useless. Lost almost all friends, hobbies, work, goals, dreams, and even desire. I couldn't recognize myself in the mirror. Coming back has been incredibly difficult since I didn't trust anyone to guide me nor myself. How do you get somewhere without direction? Lately, I think I'm on the right track, but I will never be my old self and that's okay. My old self got me in that situation, so the new one will be better.

Below are three songs that I found validating during these times. Two are in English and one is in Spanish. If you don't speak Spanish, I would happily translate the lyrics for you; just let me know.

Ren and Chinchilla

The Big Push

Residente

this post was submitted on 03 Nov 2024
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