Is it normal to feel attacked and attack when argue on the internet? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 month ago by bkr78658@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I rarely feel attacked when I talk with people in person. And we all take people feelings into consideration enough so no one is trying to attack anyone.

I was not actively commenting on social media since I was 13. But when I joined Lemmy i saw the statistics only 1% of people are actively posting and commenting on social media. And since I knew I was in 99% of people who are only consuming and really wanted Lemmy to take off I tried to be more active.

But now I find myself way too often attacked and attacking. And I always judged people that are attacking others on Xitter or Facebook.

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[-] Badabinski@kbin.earth 6 points 1 month ago

I used to have this problem all the time, I think it's pretty normal. I did many years of therapy, and part of what I got out of that was an understanding of how people deal with pain and anger. The best way to change someone's mind is to try to empathize with their position and show your understanding. Once you share context with them, you can gently explain why you feel the way you do. Sometimes, you do this and find that the other person's point of view is a more accurate reflection of your values and you change your mind instead.

Don't do this with bad faith actors though. just block them.

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