Condolences. Now comes the hard part - being kind to yourself and your immediate family. Which will be damned hard. Take time to process your feelings - either positive or negative. I found both. The one true purpose of funerals/memorials is that organising them helps to process those feelings. Be aware that other family members will have different feelings. The damned part is being patient with them and validating their feelings as well as your own. Don't shortchange yourself in that department. Take whatever time you need. Sending vibes to help when the feelings ambush you. Which they will do - usually when least convenient. Been there and done that myself. I found a grief counsellor helped me a lot after my bloke died during covid. The language of grief/relief can be grimly humorous too which I found to be an unexpected bonus.