Getting better all the time!

I only regret not leaving earlier, I was worried my ex might die as he was in a really bad place, had become radicalized on the internet, drink and abusive, I should have left before I too did things I ought not have done, and should have worried much more about the kids and less about him.

But my life immediately improved, as did my children's lives. And it's been a steady climb upward. My ex floundered for quite a few years but found his way too, quit drinking, that helped a lot. He eventually caught up on child support, before the last kid was 18, even. Is not prospering but is much more stable.

I used to argue with him that he should straighten himself out while he had the love and support of a family but I guess everyone has to find their way however they can. I will say his life getting worse while mine got better, while it didn't make me happy, did make me feel secure in the decision to leave.