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I have heard from multiple people that eye contact is essential in letting a girl (or guy, I guess) know you're interested.

But what is the 411 when it comes to said eye contact? Do you keep looking until she does? Do you then keep staring? Or is like looking at the sun? What's the deal?

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[-] Lyre@lemmy.ca 35 points 4 days ago

In her book "How to talk to anyone" Leil Lowndes suggests that when speaking with women it's best to maintain constant, unbroken eye contact to signal attention and interest. She goes on to note that even when engaged in conversation with multiple people one should act as if their eyes are constantly glued to the woman, only briefly looking away when another person is speaking and behaving as if your eyes are irresistibly drawn back to the woman of interest. She believes this formula is best in male to female conversations and female to female conversation.

By contrast, she notes that when engaged in a male to male conversation, one should regularly break eyecontact as not to be perceived as a threat. However, one should still act as if your eyes are being irresistibly drawn back to theirs.

.... I have no idea what Lowndes's qualifications are and frankly this sounds like a formula written by an alien trying to understand humans but hey maybe theres some merrit to it idk

[-] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 9 points 4 days ago

Okay but where's the line between "unbroken eye contact to signal attention and interest" and just being a creepy stalker?

[-] Rocketpoweredgorilla@lemmy.ca 17 points 4 days ago
[-] Dkarma@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Can confirm. Have been told I have dangerous eyes.

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